You know how you feel when life is good, when you’re secure with the people in your life. You feel good when you know who your friends are, who you’re related to, dating, in love with, married to; who you think or hope is “the one”. The feeling of emotional security captures your heart, erases the need to question, fear, worry, may or may not minimize any tendencies to self-delude.
What happens when your ideal picture changes, the glass of friendship or love slightly cracks or more significantly shatters? How do you respond to the inevitable choice to feel what is real, possibly let go of what has become increasingly unreal? Where do your good feelings go when you face change, break-up or lose a relationship?
A good rule of thumb is to be aware of yourself, your feelings, and the lessons that appear to you in each of your relationships. Be vigilantly aware of what’s going on in the moment, how you feel with that person, and feelings triggered by your association with them. As you get familiar with what exists between and (more…)