Come on out and join us on November 10th at the upcoming Author Expo at the Free Library of Northampton Township! I will be signing copies of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child”. I am also offering Expo Specials for my private Psychotherapy and Life Coaching practice for new clients. Come find me and we will talk. I look forward to meeting more people from the community and being of service, Inspiring Insights for Well-Being.
“The relationship you have with your child over time parallels your own lifetime learning experience. You both learn and grow, to the degree that you can. You have the privilege of impacting the life of another while you experience and heal your own life. Keep in mind that whether your child is more like you or less like you, all of his (her) unique gifts and abilities shine and help to create a balance to yours. Your relationship contains many elements that are experienced mutually , shared, and interchanged. “ Excerpt from, “Parenting for Life” Nina Sidell.
” The lens through which you view your life- the life attitude behind your relationship expectations, perceptions, intentions, and interactions- rules your world.” Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”.
What do you want to develop in yourself and in your relationships? Do you notice the way you take care of yourself? Are you attentive to the way you care for others and others care (or don’t) care for you? Your personal development consists of reaching to your best self and developed skills as you follow your personal truth and excellence- in an authentic way. Personal empowerment comes next when you find strength of spirit, courageously aware of personal and interpersonal meaning. When you are empowered, you value your life choices and learned lessons; you live with truth, confidence, and strength.
There is always hope to grow your personal and interpersonal skills when you recognize the need and do the work. Every individual in spiritual terms is responsible for fulfilling the sacred contract of their life, agreed before birth and encoded in the psyche or soul to help learn lessons. In Indian culture, we learn and grow (or are stifled) to work off our karma based on our actions and cause and effect for the future. The bottom line is that in any language, caring for the self and others are key ingredients to live, evolve, and grow the best life!
If you were raised in a household that modeled or tolerated mistreatment of the self or others, you may not recognize the toxicity when you continue to allow these types of negative patterns.
Do you recognize any of these signs of mistreatment in yourself or others?
Patterns of negative thoughts, words, or actions
Easy to anger
Ignore others and block feedback
Stingy with positive feedback
Patterns of negating, comparing, or judging
Patterns of blaming or shaming
Lacking empathy and emotional connection
Abusive, put-down language (overt name-calling or covert messaging)
Physical harm or mistreatment
Reactionary vs. responsive
Not accountable (for thoughts, words, or actions)
Resistance to change and growth
Putting up with “less than”
Feeling worn out, exhausted, under attack,or afraid
Unwilling to see the problem and seek help
What we need in the world today is an awareness and importance for our culture to value and improve: love of the self and love toward others. The mental, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual health of each person, family, and community is paramount to heal our world.
The planet is going through difficult times shifting us from a sense of security to the reality of chaos. Violence, sudden murderous attacks and shootings, fires, hurricanes, volcanoes, missing children, the opioid epidemic, and leadership unknowns rack our brains and continue to grow. Empathy is at an all-time low and narcissism is raging at an all-time high. There is more permissive parenting and our culture has forgotten the importance of the welfare and protection of children, as well as the importance of family. We are on overload and have a choice how to live, heal ourselves, each other, and the planet.
Love, trust, respect, empathy, and healthy communication are at the core of us creating a better world. We must remember the importance of well-being, comprised largely of taking care of ourselves, our children and our relationships. It is time to acknowledge that we all deserve to heal our wounds and find a better way to live as human beings.
“Remain centered within yourself instead of joining the reckless chaos around you.” Nina Sidell, M.A.
Imagine living your life one moment at a time with focus and presence, while giving your “Sacred Self” the care you need. What would your life look and feel like if you lived this way?
Times have changed and they are continually changing. The pace, topics, risks, and realities are ever-challenging and frightening. Even in that scenario, you are responsible for your life and your own well-being.
If you are a parent or caregiver, your responsibility extends to those in your care who are watching and listening to your example as a role model.
The attitude and paradigm by which you live your life on a consistent basis dictates your outcome. Past behavior typically predicts future behavior unless you work hard to eliminate or elevate your actions. If you feel like a victim, you will probably create more of the same and if you are large and in charge, you will continue on that path. Your overall well-being is your right.
Here are some useful tips to create well-being among chaos:
Issue daily quiet time to reflect, go inward, and center your emotional self.
Build confidence and self-worth by your consistent positive actions.
Check your attitude at the door as soon as you notice self-sabotaging thoughts or behavioral patterns.
Notice and if necessary correct where you place your needs in relation to circumstances or other people.
Make your inner peace a high priority as part of your overall health and wellness.
Find healthy outlets and supports for your challenges and emotional reactions, especially when stress feels unmanageable.
Rationally assess what stressors are realistic or imminent to stay mindful of your thought patterns.
Pay attention to the habits and patterns from your role models and question their veracity for you.
If you are a parent, pay attention to your consistent example and modify whenever necessary.
Seek out forms of relaxation and self-awareness, within and outside of your comfort zone.
Reach out to me for individual psychotherapy or life coaching. Contact me for Motivational Speaking and Workshop Facilitation. Get your copy of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child.” Deepak Chopra says, “If you are interested in conscious parenting, this book is an excellent guide.”
“The sacred space that dwells within the self remains true and strengthened when lovingly honored.” Nina Sidell
We are all born with certain fundamental and alienable rights according to spiritual and constitutional laws. As we come into being and exist over time, each person is gifted with the right to life, happiness, and to explore, express, and honor the nature of their existence.
Life is a sacred gift. Knowing your worth as a unique person is where it all begins and ends. It means owning your individual value as you unwrap the gift of life- a pursuit and declaration precious beyond measure. With introspection and self-reflection you learn about yourself over the passage of time and life experiences. You carry yourself, include (or exclude) yourself, and understand that each of us is on a singular journey that we experience together.
No matter what someone else says or does, you deserve to honor the core of who you are. What others say or do does not predict or control what you say or do. More importantly, nothing no one says or does can create or destroy you- not really (although it may feel that way.) In our society of increased narcissism and diminished empathy, listening skills (or the lack thereof) will be reflected in the behavior of others (possibly in yourself). As a conscious and interactive person, your mind and thoughts naturally react causing psychological, emotional, and often behavioral shifts in your state of being. It is up to you how you process experiences within yourself, learn lessons, heal and strengthen your sense of well-being when you relate to others.
Honoring the Sacred Self includes:
Paying attention to and acting on your intuition and inner wisdom.
Cultivating self-respect, self-honesty, and self-compassion.
Crafting self-care time that heals and fortifies you.
Learning your life lessons to move past negative patterns and expand ways of living.
Eliminating unnecessary stressors and toxic influences.
Asking for help, support, and guidance when needed.
Becoming curiously introspective to find inner truth and peace.
As sensitive and social thinking creatures with working brains, physiological, and emotional states to consider, we must re-visit our internal states of being routinely.
Take good care of your sacred self and by doing so you improve your life and the lives of others by example.
Reach out to me to educate, encourage, and inspire you or your group!
Some aspects of our culture and many family dynamics do not encourage inner strength, however our sense of personal power is valid and necessary, especially to navigate the world we live in today. A person’s strengths are unique to them and are wonderful to discover and acknowledge across a lifetime. Let’s call your inner strengths, “Super Powers”! Who’s to say they’re not?
Inner strength can include: natural talents and gifts (which we all have), healthy self-worth, a positive and resilient attitude, determination and fortitude, intelligence, humor, attractiveness, being loving, caring, grateful, forgiving, open-minded, clever, brave, patient, kind, and much more. Inner strength can be reflected in subtle ways, like possessing sensitivity, inner beauty, and a quiet confidence.
Whatever parts of you that encourage your uniqueness, help you relate well and succeed, or give you reason to grow and develop are your personal “Super Powers”. Continue Reading…