Personal development

Personal development

Choose Freedom!

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“When you trust and honor yourself, heal your wounds with self-compassion and mindfulness, you choose freedom.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

I for one, consciously choose my freedom and strength by directing myself and my life, my way. I enjoy the process of being a lifetime learner as I evolve, confidently honoring and empowering myself as life unfolds. I support my children, family, friends, clients, audiences, and readers to work on their personal development and empowerment as an extension of my interest in personal growth and development. I welcome feedback to enhance my personal and professional growth and development. I choose freedom to charter my own ship, not waiting or asking for validation or permission from others. I accept and support everyone to find their own unique way, including myself.

How do you live your life, moment-by-moment and over time?

Sometimes we are raised to distrust ourselves and question our instincts, needs or feelings. In many families, the message can be that action follows feedback, permission or validation from outside sources. Life then changes from the potentiality of liberating choices, but a list of to-do’s that feel like entrapment without meaning.                                                                                       .

Choose Wisely:

  • Remember that you are in charge of your life, essentially you design your life and sense of personal freedom.
  • Your powers of observation, self-awareness, and your willingness to do your work make all the difference.
  • See your life choices as individual to you; do not wait for others or compare yourself to others. Folks grow at their own pace.
  • Explore what personal freedom means to you and look at ways to create or expand upon it in your life.
  • Seek out help and support if you need to explore your patterns or want to make better choices in your life and get stuck alone.
  • Freedom and responsibility go hand in hand to live a life of balance.
  • Choosing personal freedom improves and enriches your life in big and little ways.
  • Other people may not align with your path of development and personal empowerment.
  • Let go of choices that are misguided, hurt yourself or others.
  • Always consider what do you have to gain and give up in your choices.

Add to this list and see what you come up with that defines and helps you to create an empowered life. I am here to help if you want to work with me in therapy or life coaching. Choose wisely how you want to live your personal and professional life experience. You really do have a choice.

Live Inspired! ®

Inspiring Insights for Well-Being.

Nina~ www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com

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Who’s Listening?

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” Feeling truly heard by another person is deeply satisfying, necessary, and sometimes feels like a treat more than a regular occurrence.” Nina K. Sidell, “Parenting for Life”

Do you feel heard when you talk and share with others? Are you a good listener? How often do you feel truly listened to with your friends, family and colleagues? What acknowledgements are demonstrated to you when you feel that you are being heard? After all, communication is designed for both people in a discourse to feel seen, heard, and understood as a basic psychological human need. When we forget that everyone has something to say, we are more present and truly hearing both sides. Listening well and feeling heard assist in resolving conflict and bring people together. Even if those ‘agree to disagree’, or have no consensus, there is always room for a healthy discussion.

Here are some Active Listening Tips to practice and ask of others:

The Listener:

  1. Relax enough to be available to hear someone else and respect their point of view.
  2. Be present when listening by putting own agenda and reactions aside.
  3. Take turns to confirm what was said.
  4. Ask if what you heard is what the speaker said (versus interpretation).
  5. The listener responds to what the speaker says instead of sharing, comparing, or reacting.
  6. The listener talks after the speaker does in a shared dialogue.
  7. Respond rather than react.
  8. Thank the speaker for sharing.

The Speaker:

  1.  Set aside a good time to talk for both parties where there are no distractions.
  2. Be clear and direct and stay on topic.
  3. Make “I” Statements when expressing feelings or opinions to make the sent message easier to digest.
  4. The purpose of sharing is for the speaker is to be heard clearly.
  5. Blame, shame, name-calling, yelling and insults are not permitted when sharing.
  6. Learn how to self-correct in the moment if need be.
  7. Know that the goal is to be heard and not necessarily to be agreed with.
  8. Thank the listener for listening.

It is never too late to communicate well and to improve your skills and relationships. If I can be of help, please reach out to me whether you are struggling with personal empowerment or relationship issues at home or at work. Email me at: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com. I am here to help. Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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From Lack to Love

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“The way we love and honor ourselves is reflected in our relationships with others.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

In my work with clients, groups, and audiences, and in my own life I recognize the importance and value of the human heart, relationships, and core self-worth.

For many people, their life path is fraught with pain and loss. They may not have had a functional family life complete with positive role modeling, adequate nurturing and parental care. Their feelings of worth, value, and empowerment may be undiscovered or undeveloped due to early and ongoing loss and unmet needs. For some, feeling unfulfilled, disconnected, or brokenhearted is a reality of everyday life. Connecting with themselves and other people can be a challenging task; finding inner and outer love can feel treacherous.

Life is a series of opportunities to love, learn, and grow. Depending on one’s life story and the desire to improve the quality of their life, the path to greater self-love and outer love is always present.

Once acceptance is achieved, one can move beyond pain and loss and embrace greater love internally and externally. Here are some ways to achieve this:

  • “Doing the work” is the right and responsibility of each person.
  • Using introspection, support, professional help, and healthy outlets, continue to explore personal truth.
  • Know that, “The only way out is through” is a process when coming from lack and moving toward love.
  • Acknowledge feelings and unmet needs while learning to re-parent the self to aid healing.
  • Finding strength in one’s truth helps the individual evolve, re-write the script, and become an example to others.
  • Becoming an example means creating new and better ways to live moving forward.
  • The act of developing the self is the precursor to living an empowered life.
  • Walk life’s path with self-compassion, courage, and commitment to living a life full of love, starting from the inside out.

Reach out to me if you seek an Insightful Speaker, Insightful Therapist, Life Coach. Get your copy of my Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life-Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child.” https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M/dp/1506175589/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1431232904&sr=8-6&keywords=parenting+for+life%E2%80%8B

I am here to help… Inspiring Insights for Well-Being~

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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Parent Your Inner Child Well

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“I see and hear stories of other people’s pain.  I help them carry their truth, strength, and healing.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

Whatever your story, your personal life experience, and your reactions and defenses to date, determine your current and future experience. Self-awareness coupled with the focus on developing real self-worth is at the root of all real growth and change. Personal transformation requires readiness and re-parenting skills as you give and receive what you truly need.

As a parent gives to their child, you can reach inward and allow your inner parent to give to your inner child. You develop a greater trust and respect within yourself as you learn to meet your own needs with success. Your positive life-affirming choices and satisfaction evolve into a better way of life. All of your relationships grow and your self-assured confidence improves. When you re-parent yourself well, you are happier and consciously evolve into the best version of yourself.

Here are some ways you can identify your inner child/ teen:

  • Notice repetitive negative patterns, feelings, or unmet needs that you consistently experience.
  • Notice your self-talk or inner dialogue when happy or unhappy and identify their historic origins.
  • Get a sense of your age when dealing with repetitive pain points, negative feelings, unmet needs, or life patterns that continue to hurt you.
  • Ask yourself if you are aware of your younger self and parent your inner child or teen well- with the love you needed then and need now.
  • Pay attention to what and who delights you and lights you up inside.
  • Find out what you are afraid of, where you are blocked from moving forward that stifles, sabotages, or holds back your personal joy and power.

 

Here are ways you can take care of your inner child:

  • Ask your inner child or teen self what you need, want, and what you are feeling.
  • Be willing to tune into your physical and emotional aches and pains and find positive ways to attend to yourself.
  • Respect yourself by paying close attention as only you know what you need and want most.
  • Trust and respect what you need and want. Set limits with your adult self in charge to avoid excess, bad choices, or threats to your safety.
  • Create a healthy set of coping skills as an effective reward system that combines pleasing your adult self and your younger self.
  • Indulge your inner child’s wishes to let go, play, have fun, be silly, creative, fantasize, dream and enjoy special treats.

 

Remember, listen to the wisdom of your younger self. Only you know your life story and what you carry with you now.  You know what you want and need and have the right to give yourself permission to be fully yourself. You are truly free when you integrate your life from pieces to wholeness.

For a copy of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child” go here: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589

Reach out if you need to schedule Psychotherapy or Life Coaching or want me to provide a wonderful Motivational Speech for your company or group. Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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Care for Self and Others

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” The lens through which you view your life- the life attitude behind your relationship expectations, perceptions, intentions, and interactions- rules your world.” Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”.

What do you want to develop in yourself and in your relationships? Do you notice the way you take care of yourself? Are you attentive to the way you care for others and others care (or don’t) care for you? Your personal development consists of reaching to your best self and developed skills as you follow your personal truth and excellence- in an authentic way. Personal empowerment comes next when you find strength of spirit, courageously aware of personal and interpersonal meaning. When you are empowered, you value your life choices and learned lessons; you live with truth, confidence, and strength.

There is always hope to grow your personal and interpersonal skills when you recognize the need and do the work. Every individual in spiritual terms is responsible for fulfilling the sacred contract of their life, agreed before birth and encoded in the psyche or soul to help learn lessons. In Indian culture, we learn and grow (or are stifled) to work off our karma based on our actions and cause and effect for the future. The bottom line is that in any language, caring for the self and others are key ingredients to live, evolve, and grow the best life!

If you were raised in a household that modeled or tolerated mistreatment of the self or others, you may not recognize the toxicity when you continue to allow these types of negative patterns.

Do you recognize any of these signs of mistreatment in yourself or others?

  • Patterns of negative thoughts, words, or actions
  • Negative self-talk
  • Minimizing feelings
  • Apathy
  • Denial
  • Easy to anger
  • Self-sabotage
  • Ignore others and block feedback
  • Stingy with positive feedback
  • Patterns of negating, comparing, or judging
  • Patterns of blaming or shaming
  • Self-absorbed
  • Lacking empathy and emotional connection
  • Abusive, put-down language (overt name-calling or covert messaging)
  • Physical harm or mistreatment
  • Reactionary vs. responsive
  • Not accountable (for thoughts, words, or actions)
  • Resistance to change and growth
  • Putting up with “less than”
  • Feeling worn out, exhausted, under attack,or afraid
  • Unwilling to see the problem and seek help

What we need in the world today is an awareness and importance for our culture to value and improve: love of the self and love toward others. The mental, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual health of each person, family, and community is paramount to heal our world.

The planet is going through difficult times shifting us from a sense of security to the reality of chaos. Violence, sudden murderous attacks and shootings, fires, hurricanes, volcanoes, missing children, the opioid epidemic, and leadership unknowns rack our brains and continue to grow. Empathy is at an all-time low and narcissism is raging at an all-time high. There is more permissive parenting and our culture has forgotten the importance of the welfare and protection of children, as well as the importance of family. We are on overload and have a choice how to live, heal ourselves, each other, and the planet.

Love, trust, respect, empathy, and healthy communication are at the core of us creating a better world. We must remember the importance of well-being, comprised largely of taking care of ourselves, our children and our relationships. It is time to acknowledge that we all deserve to heal our wounds and find a better way to live as human beings.

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