Personal development

Personal development

Parent Your Inner Child Well

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“I see and hear stories of other people’s pain.  I help them carry their truth, strength, and healing.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

Whatever your story, your personal life experience, and your reactions and defenses to date, determine your current and future experience. Self-awareness coupled with the focus on developing real self-worth is at the root of all real growth and change. Personal transformation requires readiness and re-parenting skills as you give and receive what you truly need.

As a parent gives to their child, you can reach inward and allow your inner parent to give to your inner child. You develop a greater trust and respect within yourself as you learn to meet your own needs with success. Your positive life-affirming choices and satisfaction evolve into a better way of life. All of your relationships grow and your self-assured confidence improves. When you re-parent yourself well, you are happier and consciously evolve into the best version of yourself.

Here are some ways you can identify your inner child/ teen:

  • Notice repetitive negative patterns, feelings, or unmet needs that you consistently experience.
  • Notice your self-talk or inner dialogue when happy or unhappy and identify their historic origins.
  • Get a sense of your age when dealing with repetitive pain points, negative feelings, unmet needs, or life patterns that continue to hurt you.
  • Ask yourself if you are aware of your younger self and parent your inner child or teen well- with the love you needed then and need now.
  • Pay attention to what and who delights you and lights you up inside.
  • Find out what you are afraid of, where you are blocked from moving forward that stifles, sabotages, or holds back your personal joy and power.

 

Here are ways you can take care of your inner child:

  • Ask your inner child or teen self what you need, want, and what you are feeling.
  • Be willing to tune into your physical and emotional aches and pains and find positive ways to attend to yourself.
  • Respect yourself by paying close attention as only you know what you need and want most.
  • Trust and respect what you need and want. Set limits with your adult self in charge to avoid excess, bad choices, or threats to your safety.
  • Create a healthy set of coping skills as an effective reward system that combines pleasing your adult self and your younger self.
  • Indulge your inner child’s wishes to let go, play, have fun, be silly, creative, fantasize, dream and enjoy special treats.

 

Remember, listen to the wisdom of your younger self. Only you know your life story and what you carry with you now.  You know what you want and need and have the right to give yourself permission to be fully yourself. You are truly free when you integrate your life from pieces to wholeness.

For a copy of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child” go here: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589

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Care for Self and Others

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” The lens through which you view your life- the life attitude behind your relationship expectations, perceptions, intentions, and interactions- rules your world.” Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”.

What do you want to develop in yourself and in your relationships? Do you notice the way you take care of yourself? Are you attentive to the way you care for others and others care (or don’t) care for you? Your personal development consists of reaching to your best self and developed skills as you follow your personal truth and excellence- in an authentic way. Personal empowerment comes next when you find strength of spirit, courageously aware of personal and interpersonal meaning. When you are empowered, you value your life choices and learned lessons; you live with truth, confidence, and strength.

There is always hope to grow your personal and interpersonal skills when you recognize the need and do the work. Every individual in spiritual terms is responsible for fulfilling the sacred contract of their life, agreed before birth and encoded in the psyche or soul to help learn lessons. In Indian culture, we learn and grow (or are stifled) to work off our karma based on our actions and cause and effect for the future. The bottom line is that in any language, caring for the self and others are key ingredients to live, evolve, and grow the best life!

If you were raised in a household that modeled or tolerated mistreatment of the self or others, you may not recognize the toxicity when you continue to allow these types of negative patterns.

Do you recognize any of these signs of mistreatment in yourself or others?

  • Patterns of negative thoughts, words, or actions
  • Negative self-talk
  • Minimizing feelings
  • Apathy
  • Denial
  • Easy to anger
  • Self-sabotage
  • Ignore others and block feedback
  • Stingy with positive feedback
  • Patterns of negating, comparing, or judging
  • Patterns of blaming or shaming
  • Self-absorbed
  • Lacking empathy and emotional connection
  • Abusive, put-down language (overt name-calling or covert messaging)
  • Physical harm or mistreatment
  • Reactionary vs. responsive
  • Not accountable (for thoughts, words, or actions)
  • Resistance to change and growth
  • Putting up with “less than”
  • Feeling worn out, exhausted, under attack,or afraid
  • Unwilling to see the problem and seek help

What we need in the world today is an awareness and importance for our culture to value and improve: love of the self and love toward others. The mental, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual health of each person, family, and community is paramount to heal our world.

The planet is going through difficult times shifting us from a sense of security to the reality of chaos. Violence, sudden murderous attacks and shootings, fires, hurricanes, volcanoes, missing children, the opioid epidemic, and leadership unknowns rack our brains and continue to grow. Empathy is at an all-time low and narcissism is raging at an all-time high. There is more permissive parenting and our culture has forgotten the importance of the welfare and protection of children, as well as the importance of family. We are on overload and have a choice how to live, heal ourselves, each other, and the planet.

Love, trust, respect, empathy, and healthy communication are at the core of us creating a better world. We must remember the importance of well-being, comprised largely of taking care of ourselves, our children and our relationships. It is time to acknowledge that we all deserve to heal our wounds and find a better way to live as human beings.

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Worthy of Self-Love

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“What runs the engine of your life? Be sure to fuel life choices that value and honor you.” Nina  Sidell

How do you feel about yourself? Are you aware of the specialness about you and what you deserve?

No matter your lot in life, the situations, career positions, relationships, desires and ultimate happiness directly relate to your real, true, deep opinion of yourself. It is not your fault if circumstances have challenged or failed you. It is the way in which you handle and respond to all circumstances that defines you. In many ways, your outer life reflects your inner life. It is a tall order to reflect so self-honestly, yet reflection while being truthful and open to new learning is always a useful and meaningful practice.

You must be courageous to be self-aware. Learning to improve your self-worth and act in self-loving ways is possible at any age.

When you truly love and honor yourself you know it. When you don’t, you know that too.

Here are some guidelines for ways to improve your self-worth today:

  • Having high self-regard and treating yourself in loving ways in all you do is not bragging or being arrogant.
  • It is not selfish to take care of yourself and know that you deserve care. That is called, “Healthy Selfishness”.
  • Notice your “Self-talk” or “Internal Dialogue”.
  • Keep track of the negative and positive thoughts and messages that run through your brain daily.
  • Create a plan to substitute your negative “Self-Talk” with positive “Self-Talk”.
  • Reinforce yourself with healthy acknowledgements as you grow your Self-Praise to Self-Criticism Ratio.
  • Learn how to be self-compassionate when life feels challenging, difficult, or overwhelming.
  • Write a personal affirmation using your name, in present time, with ideal practices and feelings that nurtures and empowers you.
  • Be sure that your affirmation is reasonable and believable and use only positive words and phrases.
  • Read your affirmation at least twice a day out loud and preferably while looking into a mirror.
  • Choose to be around people who support you with whom you feel “comfortable, safe, and at home”.
  • When communicating your wants and needs with others, do so with confidence and clarity.
  • Treat others with the same love and respect as you treat yourself and want to be treated.
  • Begin to notice how your life improves when you consciously and consistently treat yourself with the love you deserve.

Choose to elevate your understanding of who you are and what you deserve in life. You always have the opportunity to look inside and shine brightly!

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A Lifetime of Learning

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“Once you stop learning, you start dying.” Albert Einstein This true statement begs us to open our minds to more.

No matter your age you are here to love and learn. The lessons in love and the process of deepening knowledge and ideas are vital. Human development spans a lifetime and cannot be stilted or compartmentalized with a begin and end time when it comes to presence, knowledge and learning.

Do you want to live as a lifetime learner? If so, put your mind, heart, and soul into that journey. You will find many beautiful and difficult lessons that impact the quality and meaning of your life. You will be inspired and you will inspire the lives of those around you. The trickle effect of a positive mental attitude is powerful and can improve lives.

Here are some ideas for you as a Lifetime Learner:

  • Explore the belief that you are here to Love and to Learn.
  • Say, “Yes!” to Life and all of Life’s lessons.
  • Be mindful of your Self-Talk and improve it if necessary.
  • Your curiosity exceeds your complacency.
  • You find the Journey of Life exciting and interesting with endless growth opportunities.
  • You see challenges as opportunities to learn and grow.
  • Gratitude becomes the watchword of your Life experience.
  • Your peers and you are on different journeys.
  • You are open to new ideas and practices that help you enjoy, love, and grow.
  • Self-Compassion toward the self and empathy toward others manifest healing.
  • You are responsible for your own Well-Being.
  • See that everyone is on a path to Love and to Learn.

Learn all that you can while you are here. Repair and build healthy connections in your life. Heal yourself, your relationships, and your trauma. Be open to creative soulful expression, spiritual and emotional awakening. Find insight and tools to honor your, “Sacred Self”. Empower your inner voice and “Personal Superpowers”. After all, it is your Life to explore and enjoy!

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What Makes You Feel Safe & Secure?

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How do you feel day-to-day and year-to-year? When you stop, look and listen to the world around you, what makes you feel content, safe and secure? You are aware of the extreme challenges facing all of us today and it is your choice in any given moment how you (want to) respond. Today’s world is filled with speed, chaos, fear, uncertainty, violence, natural disasters, and lack of control. Living in a complex, tumultuous world raising constant threats to peace and well-being affect people’s overall stress response, health, relationships and progress.

It is documented that many diseases stem from stress and we need to find ways to create positive change in the world and within ourselves to avoid that.  Continue Reading…