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Courageous Parenting

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“Parenting is a journey of love,…building your lifetime relationship with your child, healing and evolving both of you.” Nina K. Sidell, Parenting for Life

When you set out as a parent, you may not think that you will need to practice an inordinate amount of recurring and new skills, beyond anything you have ever experienced before, however you will.

As a parent, you will be called upon to possess massive amounts of patience and courage and heaping amounts filled to the brim with endless unconditional love and kindness. You will soon learn that the decisions to hold on and let go are bountiful and that your position of caregiver, role model, and guide are pretty much 24/7.

There is much to teach and learn as a parent and more than a little of it takes some kind of courage.

Here are some examples of Courageous Parenting:

1. Live by the credo: “Parents are in Charge and Children Have a Voice.”

2. Learn to be an “Active Listener” with your child.

3. Make, “Stop, Look, and Listen” a family mindfulness practice.

4. Take responsibility for yourself and your history, including unresolved needs or issues.

5. Be accountable for your words, attitudes, and actions; model and teach this to your child.

6. Work on yourself and developing a healthy relationship with your child and seek solutions as the leader.

7. Gain clarity about your parenting purpose and style.

8. Acknowledge and show respect for your child’s individuality.

9. Make the well-being of your child, yourself, and each family member a priority in all situations.

10. You are a teacher and student as you learn about your child and yourself- as you both evolve as people.

11. Be fully present with an eye on the future as you consciously create a lifetime relationship with your child.

12. Courageously choose the legacy you leave.

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

Please reach out to me for individual, couples, family support and if your group wants an inspiring and insightful speaker email: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com

For copies of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child” go to:

https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M/dp/1506175589/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1431232904&sr=8-6&keywords=parenting+for+life%E2%80%8B

 

 

Care for Self and Others

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” The lens through which you view your life- the life attitude behind your relationship expectations, perceptions, intentions, and interactions- rules your world.” Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”.

What do you want to develop in yourself and in your relationships? Do you notice the way you take care of yourself? Are you attentive to the way you care for others and others care (or don’t) care for you? Your personal development consists of reaching to your best self and developed skills as you follow your personal truth and excellence- in an authentic way. Personal empowerment comes next when you find strength of spirit, courageously aware of personal and interpersonal meaning. When you are empowered, you value your life choices and learned lessons; you live with truth, confidence, and strength.

There is always hope to grow your personal and interpersonal skills when you recognize the need and do the work. Every individual in spiritual terms is responsible for fulfilling the sacred contract of their life, agreed before birth and encoded in the psyche or soul to help learn lessons. In Indian culture, we learn and grow (or are stifled) to work off our karma based on our actions and cause and effect for the future. The bottom line is that in any language, caring for the self and others are key ingredients to live, evolve, and grow the best life!

If you were raised in a household that modeled or tolerated mistreatment of the self or others, you may not recognize the toxicity when you continue to allow these types of negative patterns.

Do you recognize any of these signs of mistreatment in yourself or others?

  • Patterns of negative thoughts, words, or actions
  • Negative self-talk
  • Minimizing feelings
  • Apathy
  • Denial
  • Easy to anger
  • Self-sabotage
  • Ignore others and block feedback
  • Stingy with positive feedback
  • Patterns of negating, comparing, or judging
  • Patterns of blaming or shaming
  • Self-absorbed
  • Lacking empathy and emotional connection
  • Abusive, put-down language (overt name-calling or covert messaging)
  • Physical harm or mistreatment
  • Reactionary vs. responsive
  • Not accountable (for thoughts, words, or actions)
  • Resistance to change and growth
  • Putting up with “less than”
  • Feeling worn out, exhausted, under attack,or afraid
  • Unwilling to see the problem and seek help

What we need in the world today is an awareness and importance for our culture to value and improve: love of the self and love toward others. The mental, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual health of each person, family, and community is paramount to heal our world.

The planet is going through difficult times shifting us from a sense of security to the reality of chaos. Violence, sudden murderous attacks and shootings, fires, hurricanes, volcanoes, missing children, the opioid epidemic, and leadership unknowns rack our brains and continue to grow. Empathy is at an all-time low and narcissism is raging at an all-time high. There is more permissive parenting and our culture has forgotten the importance of the welfare and protection of children, as well as the importance of family. We are on overload and have a choice how to live, heal ourselves, each other, and the planet.

Love, trust, respect, empathy, and healthy communication are at the core of us creating a better world. We must remember the importance of well-being, comprised largely of taking care of ourselves, our children and our relationships. It is time to acknowledge that we all deserve to heal our wounds and find a better way to live as human beings.

Live Inspired! ® Nina~ http://www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com

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You’re Stronger Than You Think Parents!

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“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh

A.A. Milne’s Winnie the Pooh

In my book, “Parenting for Life” themes and specific tools are offered to improve mindfulness, self-awareness, understanding, honesty, trust, and respect between parents and children of all ages and at all stages of development. You teach and you learn and your relationship strengthens and grows.

You are given the opportunity to look into yourself and what you most want between you and your child or children across your lifetime relationship. You evolve as a person and become a stronger parent. You child feels better about themselves, their role model (You), and their expectations for healthy future relationships. Your parent-child relationship will evolve along with each of your personal evolution with moments that inspire insights for well-being and tools that really work! Stay positive, open, and self-aware and your parent-child relationship will be strengthened.

Mom’s Choice Award-Winner, Parenting for Life was endorsed by Dr. Deepak Chopra. He says,  “If you are interested in conscious parenting, this book is an excellent guide.”  

Here are some Conscious Parenting Tips & Tools from, “Parenting for Life”:

  • “You direct, star, and play in your child’s life story from even before the moment you meet.”
  • “Since love is at the core of good parenting, be committed to loving with awareness and respect. It is through this deep bond that healthy love can grow, benefiting both parent and child.”
  • “With personal accountability you model honesty and strength. You display a willingness to improve and take pride in yourself by telling the truth, and being responsible for your actions.”
  • “Only make agreements that you can keep or renegotiate”
  • “Notice how your child’s legitimate emotions and expressions trigger your own. In this way, your child becomes your teacher quietly and profoundly. You learn from each other as you both grow.
  • “Decide if your thoughts and actions are working, and, if not, re-think your parenting plan to reflect your highest purpose.”
  • “Be steadfast and learn your child’s unique developmental, physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual needs. Keep these need in your focus.”
  • ” Listen and look objectively at the messages you send with your words and behaviors in your home.”
  • ” Too  much vacillation of style, or using a style that does not work, especially regarding matters that are important to the child will eventually backfire.”
  • “Children still need rules, boundaries and governance, along with acceptance, expression and healthy freedoms.”
  • “Trust your own parenting instincts. Listen to your child’s words and observe your child’s behaviors.”
  • ” The early and emotionally significant associations and relationship patterns provide blueprints for future relationships.”
  • “The built-in support system and emotional connection to family is irreplaceable, particularly in the early years, but still holds its power throughout life.”
  • “Be receptive to lifelong learning, no matter what you think you already know. There is an endless supply of teachable moments for you and your child on your shared life’s journey.”

Stay strong as you find your way as an excellent parent building your lifetime relationships one day at a time. Live Inspired! ® Nina~

For therapy, coaching, or speaking email: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com For your copies of, “Parenting for Life” click here: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589

All material used from, “Parenting for Life” are Copy written @2015 by Nina Sidell. #PersonalEmpowerment #parenting #ConsciousParenting #ParentChildRelationship #parentingbook

Worthy of Self-Love

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“What runs the engine of your life? Be sure to fuel life choices that value and honor you.” Nina  Sidell

How do you feel about yourself? Are you aware of the specialness about you and what you deserve?

No matter your lot in life, the situations, career positions, relationships, desires and ultimate happiness directly relate to your real, true, deep opinion of yourself. It is not your fault if circumstances have challenged or failed you. It is the way in which you handle and respond to all circumstances that defines you. In many ways, your outer life reflects your inner life. It is a tall order to reflect so self-honestly, yet reflection while being truthful and open to new learning is always a useful and meaningful practice.

You must be courageous to be self-aware. Learning to improve your self-worth and act in self-loving ways is possible at any age.

When you truly love and honor yourself you know it. When you don’t, you know that too.

Here are some guidelines for ways to improve your self-worth today:

  • Having high self-regard and treating yourself in loving ways in all you do is not bragging or being arrogant.
  • It is not selfish to take care of yourself and know that you deserve care. That is called, “Healthy Selfishness”.
  • Notice your “Self-talk” or “Internal Dialogue”.
  • Keep track of the negative and positive thoughts and messages that run through your brain daily.
  • Create a plan to substitute your negative “Self-Talk” with positive “Self-Talk”.
  • Reinforce yourself with healthy acknowledgements as you grow your Self-Praise to Self-Criticism Ratio.
  • Learn how to be self-compassionate when life feels challenging, difficult, or overwhelming.
  • Write a personal affirmation using your name, in present time, with ideal practices and feelings that nurtures and empowers you.
  • Be sure that your affirmation is reasonable and believable and use only positive words and phrases.
  • Read your affirmation at least twice a day out loud and preferably while looking into a mirror.
  • Choose to be around people who support you with whom you feel “comfortable, safe, and at home”.
  • When communicating your wants and needs with others, do so with confidence and clarity.
  • Treat others with the same love and respect as you treat yourself and want to be treated.
  • Begin to notice how your life improves when you consciously and consistently treat yourself with the love you deserve.

Choose to elevate your understanding of who you are and what you deserve in life. You always have the opportunity to look inside and shine brightly!

Reach out to me for Psychotherapy, Life Coaching and Motivational Speaking at: http://www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com Live Inspired! ® Nina

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Honoring the Sacred Self

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“The sacred space that dwells within the self remains true and strengthened when lovingly honored.” Nina Sidell

We are all born with certain fundamental and alienable rights according to spiritual and constitutional laws. As we come into being and exist over time, each person is gifted with the right to life, happiness, and to explore, express, and honor the nature of their existence.

Life is a sacred gift. Knowing your worth as a unique person is where it all begins and ends. It means owning your individual value as you unwrap the gift of life- a pursuit and declaration precious beyond measure. With introspection and self-reflection you learn about yourself over the passage of time and life experiences. You carry yourself, include (or exclude) yourself, and understand that each of us is on a singular journey that we experience together.

No matter what someone else says or does, you deserve to honor the core of who you are. What others say or do does not predict or control what you say or do. More importantly, nothing no one says or does can create or destroy you- not really (although it may feel that way.) In our society of increased narcissism and diminished empathy, listening skills (or the lack thereof) will be reflected in the behavior of others (possibly in yourself). As a conscious and interactive person, your mind and thoughts naturally react causing psychological, emotional, and often behavioral shifts in your state of being. It is up to you how you process experiences within yourself, learn lessons, heal and strengthen your sense of well-being when you relate to others.

Honoring the Sacred Self includes:

  • Paying attention to and acting on your intuition and inner wisdom.
  • Cultivating self-respect, self-honesty, and self-compassion.
  • Crafting self-care time that heals and fortifies you.
  • Learning your life lessons to move past negative patterns and expand ways of living.
  • Eliminating unnecessary stressors and toxic influences.
  • Asking for help, support, and guidance when needed.
  • Becoming curiously introspective to find inner truth and peace.

As sensitive and social thinking creatures with working brains, physiological, and emotional states to consider, we must re-visit our internal states of being routinely.

Take good care of your sacred self and by doing so you improve your life and the lives of others by example.

Reach out to me to educate, encourage, and inspire you or your group!

Live Inspired! ®

Nina~ www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com #SelfLove #HonorSelf #InnerPeace #SelfCare #InnerWisdom #BookAuthor # ParentingBook #DeepakChopra #MomsChoiceAwards