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The Gift of Good Co-Parenting

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” Being willing to consciously parent is an essential skill. Being willing to co-parent well is a gift.” Nina K. Sidell, M.A.

“Free yourself from antiquated ways, ineffective parenting styles and strategies or knee-jerk reactions by committing to parent with awareness. By making a conscious commitment to living with an open mind and heart, you free yourself from old habitual patterns, belief systems, and unconscious, inappropriate, or defensive responses. Try an expanded view and version of the old or ineffective style and strategies. Learn to do what works and release what does not. With awareness, you build acceptance and strength to deal with your child and his (or her) needs, both for now and for the future. Sometimes, that is much easier said than done. Let illusions of reality- outmoded ways of thinking, responding, and living that do not support your or your family go.” Parenting for Life, Nina K. Sidell, 2015.

When you marry or cohabitate and then bring a child into the world, the future success of your initial relationship is unknown to you. Hopefully, the relationship is sustained over time and the experience of being together with children grows in every way. Couples connect based on feelings of love, need, attraction, shared values or goals, and romantic commitments.

Whether you remain an in-tact unit or become single parents, you are responsible to keep the welfare of your children top of mind and heart at every turn.

As you help your children cope through the difficulty and pain, and as you all begin to heal, so will your co-parenting. The gift of growth and healing is present for the taking.

Here Are Some Tips to Consciously Co-Parent Well:

  • Whether you are coupled/married or divorced, remember that the goal is to provide consistent love, safety, protection, guidance, and support for your children.
  • Maintain healthy boundaries by keeping adult issues and conflicts away from your children. Your children get only one childhood and it’s significant for their lifetime.
  • Take ownership if you over-share adult issues and conflicts in front of your children. Apologize and self-correct so to not repeat the behavior.
  • Be responsible for how you deal with your co-parent, especially in front of your children so that you model self-control and respectful behavior.
  • Work on resolving your individual and marital issues with a trusted therapist and/or parenting coach. Find a safe place to “dump”, be heard, and strategize.
  • Work with a therapist and/or parenting coach to create a workable Parenting Plan- that covers the basics and specifics of childcare for your family.
  • Agree to communicate with your ex in an agreed upon manner (privately) about children’s needs, schedules, changes as helpers in co-raising your children.
  • Determine who is responsible for what as the parental responsibilities and goals are determined for the best interest of your children.
  • Build-in flexibility and good problem-solving skills when unexpected scheduling, interpersonal issues, and emergencies arise.
  • Encourage that your children have a positive relationship with the other parent.
  • Have your children “catch you” saying positive things about themselves and the other parent.
  • Healthy boundaries help you and your ex move on in your own personal/dating lives.
  • Create clear boundaries around who are the safe caregivers for your children and who are not.
  • Be sure to discuss safe adults with your children. Encourage and invite open communication about their needs, wishes, and feelings with active listening.
  • Schedule time for fun. Reinforce the importance of fun bonding time with your children and both parents.
  • Take good care of yourself. When you feel good, you are a better parent and co-parent.

Feel free to reach out for a Free Phone Consultation. Call: 215-628-0282 or Email: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com I am here to help.

Inspiring Insights for Well-Being.

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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Courageous Parenting

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“Parenting is a journey of love,…building your lifetime relationship with your child, healing and evolving both of you.” Nina K. Sidell, Parenting for Life

When you set out as a parent, you may not think that you will need to practice an inordinate amount of recurring and new skills, beyond anything you have ever experienced before, however you will.

As a parent, you will be called upon to possess massive amounts of patience and courage and heaping amounts filled to the brim with endless unconditional love and kindness. You will soon learn that the decisions to hold on and let go are bountiful and that your position of caregiver, role model, and guide are pretty much 24/7.

There is much to teach and learn as a parent and more than a little of it takes some kind of courage.

Here are some examples of Courageous Parenting:

1. Live by the credo: “Parents are in Charge and Children Have a Voice.”

2. Learn to be an “Active Listener” with your child.

3. Make, “Stop, Look, and Listen” a family mindfulness practice.

4. Take responsibility for yourself and your history, including unresolved needs or issues.

5. Be accountable for your words, attitudes, and actions; model and teach this to your child.

6. Work on yourself and developing a healthy relationship with your child and seek solutions as the leader.

7. Gain clarity about your parenting purpose and style.

8. Acknowledge and show respect for your child’s individuality.

9. Make the well-being of your child, yourself, and each family member a priority in all situations.

10. You are a teacher and student as you learn about your child and yourself- as you both evolve as people.

11. Be fully present with an eye on the future as you consciously create a lifetime relationship with your child.

12. Courageously choose the legacy you leave.

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

Please reach out to me for individual, couples, family support and if your group wants an inspiring and insightful speaker email: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com

For copies of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child” go to:

https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M/dp/1506175589/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1431232904&sr=8-6&keywords=parenting+for+life%E2%80%8B

 

 

Author Expo

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Come on out and join us on November 10th at the upcoming Author Expo at the Free Library of Northampton Township! I will be signing copies of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child”. I am also offering Expo Specials for my private Psychotherapy and Life Coaching practice for new clients. Come find me and we will talk. I look forward to meeting more people from the community and being of service, Inspiring Insights for Well-Being.

“The relationship you have with your child over time parallels your own lifetime learning experience. You both learn and grow, to the degree that you can. You have the privilege of impacting the life of another while you experience and heal your own life. Keep in mind that whether your child is more like you or less like you, all of his (her) unique gifts and abilities shine and help to create a balance to yours. Your relationship contains many elements that are experienced mutually , shared, and interchanged. “ Excerpt from, “Parenting for Life” Nina Sidell.

http://www.northamptontownshiplibrary.org/adult-programs/ 

Dr. Deepak Chopra says about, “Parenting for Life”: “If you are interested in conscious parenting, this book is an excellent guide.” 

To learn more about my book and professional services as a Psychotherapist, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Author go to: http://www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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Care for Self and Others

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” The lens through which you view your life- the life attitude behind your relationship expectations, perceptions, intentions, and interactions- rules your world.” Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”.

What do you want to develop in yourself and in your relationships? Do you notice the way you take care of yourself? Are you attentive to the way you care for others and others care (or don’t) care for you? Your personal development consists of reaching to your best self and developed skills as you follow your personal truth and excellence- in an authentic way. Personal empowerment comes next when you find strength of spirit, courageously aware of personal and interpersonal meaning. When you are empowered, you value your life choices and learned lessons; you live with truth, confidence, and strength.

There is always hope to grow your personal and interpersonal skills when you recognize the need and do the work. Every individual in spiritual terms is responsible for fulfilling the sacred contract of their life, agreed before birth and encoded in the psyche or soul to help learn lessons. In Indian culture, we learn and grow (or are stifled) to work off our karma based on our actions and cause and effect for the future. The bottom line is that in any language, caring for the self and others are key ingredients to live, evolve, and grow the best life!

If you were raised in a household that modeled or tolerated mistreatment of the self or others, you may not recognize the toxicity when you continue to allow these types of negative patterns.

Do you recognize any of these signs of mistreatment in yourself or others?

  • Patterns of negative thoughts, words, or actions
  • Negative self-talk
  • Minimizing feelings
  • Apathy
  • Denial
  • Easy to anger
  • Self-sabotage
  • Ignore others and block feedback
  • Stingy with positive feedback
  • Patterns of negating, comparing, or judging
  • Patterns of blaming or shaming
  • Self-absorbed
  • Lacking empathy and emotional connection
  • Abusive, put-down language (overt name-calling or covert messaging)
  • Physical harm or mistreatment
  • Reactionary vs. responsive
  • Not accountable (for thoughts, words, or actions)
  • Resistance to change and growth
  • Putting up with “less than”
  • Feeling worn out, exhausted, under attack,or afraid
  • Unwilling to see the problem and seek help

What we need in the world today is an awareness and importance for our culture to value and improve: love of the self and love toward others. The mental, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual health of each person, family, and community is paramount to heal our world.

The planet is going through difficult times shifting us from a sense of security to the reality of chaos. Violence, sudden murderous attacks and shootings, fires, hurricanes, volcanoes, missing children, the opioid epidemic, and leadership unknowns rack our brains and continue to grow. Empathy is at an all-time low and narcissism is raging at an all-time high. There is more permissive parenting and our culture has forgotten the importance of the welfare and protection of children, as well as the importance of family. We are on overload and have a choice how to live, heal ourselves, each other, and the planet.

Love, trust, respect, empathy, and healthy communication are at the core of us creating a better world. We must remember the importance of well-being, comprised largely of taking care of ourselves, our children and our relationships. It is time to acknowledge that we all deserve to heal our wounds and find a better way to live as human beings.

Live Inspired! ® Nina~ http://www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com

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You’re Stronger Than You Think Parents!

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“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh

A.A. Milne’s Winnie the Pooh

In my book, “Parenting for Life” themes and specific tools are offered to improve mindfulness, self-awareness, understanding, honesty, trust, and respect between parents and children of all ages and at all stages of development. You teach and you learn and your relationship strengthens and grows.

You are given the opportunity to look into yourself and what you most want between you and your child or children across your lifetime relationship. You evolve as a person and become a stronger parent. You child feels better about themselves, their role model (You), and their expectations for healthy future relationships. Your parent-child relationship will evolve along with each of your personal evolution with moments that inspire insights for well-being and tools that really work! Stay positive, open, and self-aware and your parent-child relationship will be strengthened.

Mom’s Choice Award-Winner, Parenting for Life was endorsed by Dr. Deepak Chopra. He says,  “If you are interested in conscious parenting, this book is an excellent guide.”  

Here are some Conscious Parenting Tips & Tools from, “Parenting for Life”:

  • “You direct, star, and play in your child’s life story from even before the moment you meet.”
  • “Since love is at the core of good parenting, be committed to loving with awareness and respect. It is through this deep bond that healthy love can grow, benefiting both parent and child.”
  • “With personal accountability you model honesty and strength. You display a willingness to improve and take pride in yourself by telling the truth, and being responsible for your actions.”
  • “Only make agreements that you can keep or renegotiate”
  • “Notice how your child’s legitimate emotions and expressions trigger your own. In this way, your child becomes your teacher quietly and profoundly. You learn from each other as you both grow.
  • “Decide if your thoughts and actions are working, and, if not, re-think your parenting plan to reflect your highest purpose.”
  • “Be steadfast and learn your child’s unique developmental, physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual needs. Keep these need in your focus.”
  • ” Listen and look objectively at the messages you send with your words and behaviors in your home.”
  • ” Too  much vacillation of style, or using a style that does not work, especially regarding matters that are important to the child will eventually backfire.”
  • “Children still need rules, boundaries and governance, along with acceptance, expression and healthy freedoms.”
  • “Trust your own parenting instincts. Listen to your child’s words and observe your child’s behaviors.”
  • ” The early and emotionally significant associations and relationship patterns provide blueprints for future relationships.”
  • “The built-in support system and emotional connection to family is irreplaceable, particularly in the early years, but still holds its power throughout life.”
  • “Be receptive to lifelong learning, no matter what you think you already know. There is an endless supply of teachable moments for you and your child on your shared life’s journey.”

Stay strong as you find your way as an excellent parent building your lifetime relationships one day at a time. Live Inspired! ® Nina~

For therapy, coaching, or speaking email: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com For your copies of, “Parenting for Life” click here: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589

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