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Families, and the Welfare and Protection of Children

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“Our society does not focus on families and family wellness, or on the welfare and protection of children.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

It is  my belief and observation that among all of the rapid societal changes we are experiencing, we are losing ground on certain matters of heartfelt importance. Evidence all-around illustrates the absence and minimizing effects of the importance of family life as well as the welfare and protection of children. For generations, family values and goals were spoken of and marketed to in all walks of life. Recent years the family is deteriorating, with the increased divorce rate and focus on a modern-day, “survival of the fittest”. We are coping with more stress than ever before in a multitude of ways.

With all of our social changes, the breakdown of the family coupled with the neglect of our children is on an upswing. We must keep our children safe in every possible way.

While the welfare and protection of children has not always been historically stellar, it has existed at our social core. What I can tell is that we are “adultifying” our children and their world, blatantly forgetting and neglecting to protect our children’s developmental needs and processes. This shows up in our media, social and interpersonal connections. It is as if children have joined the ranks of all else who are in the race to hurry up or survive. Conversations omit the importance of protecting our children’s collective innocence, as appearances of adult language, themes, permissive parenting, and increased violence toward and between our youth appear all too frequently.

There is too much to deal with today; without the awareness and skills to effectively cope with or improve challenging situations, we revert to “business as usual”.

Do all that you can to increase your gratitude for your family, past and present. Take care to parent with consciousness, whether your children are little or grown. Take a stand and be a voice of light in the darkness in a world on overwhelm. Reign back into the wisdom of your heart and the people who matter most. If everyone does this, our world can begin to heal with love and peace.

“Be receptive to lifelong learning, no matter what you think you already know. There is an endless supply of teachable moments for you and your child on your shared life’s journey.”

Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”. For your copy: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589

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Fall for Love

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Are you ready to adapt to crisp days and chilly nights? Are you making room for new growth and transformation in your life? With curiosity and grace, welcome each season, person, and insight into your view.

Think about it, where do you spend most of your emotional energy most days? Are you focused on getting things done, feeling upset, overwhelmed, sad, frustrated, frightened, or angry? Do you practice  mindfulness to assist you in staying present and do you have healthy coping skills, emotional and physical outlets to help you cope? To become mindful with the intention of growth and peace is to fall in love with life, and to fall in love with your own life.

Here are some tips for Falling in Love with Your Life!

  • Pay attention to your thoughts and emotional focus, day-to-day and week-to-week, etc.
  • Observe your coping skills, (lack of) tools, and support.
  • Notice how you spend your time, day-to-day and week-to-week, etc.
  • Evaluate if you have fun and healthy outlets in your life that excite and enthuse you.
  • Acknowledge if the quality of your relationships reflect what makes you happiest with others.
  • Ask yourself the question, “Are you in love with your life?”
  • Then follow-up with two more questions, “If not, what would make this happen? What do you have to do to make it so?”
  • Forgive yourself and others who do not know how to embrace loving your own life.
  • Where does your personal self-care fall in the continuum of your life?
  • Does your life reflect your values and provide you with happiness you seek? Choose wisely for yourself…it’s your Life!

In these stressful times, feeling connected to our lives and a sense of purpose, connection, and joy is essential. We feel it and our children feel it. It’s time to evolve the status quo.

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Care for Self and Others

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” The lens through which you view your life- the life attitude behind your relationship expectations, perceptions, intentions, and interactions- rules your world.” Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”.

What do you want to develop in yourself and in your relationships? Do you notice the way you take care of yourself? Are you attentive to the way you care for others and others care (or don’t) care for you? Your personal development consists of reaching to your best self and developed skills as you follow your personal truth and excellence- in an authentic way. Personal empowerment comes next when you find strength of spirit, courageously aware of personal and interpersonal meaning. When you are empowered, you value your life choices and learned lessons; you live with truth, confidence, and strength.

There is always hope to grow your personal and interpersonal skills when you recognize the need and do the work. Every individual in spiritual terms is responsible for fulfilling the sacred contract of their life, agreed before birth and encoded in the psyche or soul to help learn lessons. In Indian culture, we learn and grow (or are stifled) to work off our karma based on our actions and cause and effect for the future. The bottom line is that in any language, caring for the self and others are key ingredients to live, evolve, and grow the best life!

If you were raised in a household that modeled or tolerated mistreatment of the self or others, you may not recognize the toxicity when you continue to allow these types of negative patterns.

Do you recognize any of these signs of mistreatment in yourself or others?

  • Patterns of negative thoughts, words, or actions
  • Negative self-talk
  • Minimizing feelings
  • Apathy
  • Denial
  • Easy to anger
  • Self-sabotage
  • Ignore others and block feedback
  • Stingy with positive feedback
  • Patterns of negating, comparing, or judging
  • Patterns of blaming or shaming
  • Self-absorbed
  • Lacking empathy and emotional connection
  • Abusive, put-down language (overt name-calling or covert messaging)
  • Physical harm or mistreatment
  • Reactionary vs. responsive
  • Not accountable (for thoughts, words, or actions)
  • Resistance to change and growth
  • Putting up with “less than”
  • Feeling worn out, exhausted, under attack,or afraid
  • Unwilling to see the problem and seek help

What we need in the world today is an awareness and importance for our culture to value and improve: love of the self and love toward others. The mental, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual health of each person, family, and community is paramount to heal our world.

The planet is going through difficult times shifting us from a sense of security to the reality of chaos. Violence, sudden murderous attacks and shootings, fires, hurricanes, volcanoes, missing children, the opioid epidemic, and leadership unknowns rack our brains and continue to grow. Empathy is at an all-time low and narcissism is raging at an all-time high. There is more permissive parenting and our culture has forgotten the importance of the welfare and protection of children, as well as the importance of family. We are on overload and have a choice how to live, heal ourselves, each other, and the planet.

Love, trust, respect, empathy, and healthy communication are at the core of us creating a better world. We must remember the importance of well-being, comprised largely of taking care of ourselves, our children and our relationships. It is time to acknowledge that we all deserve to heal our wounds and find a better way to live as human beings.

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Create Well-Being in a Chaotic World

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“Remain centered within yourself instead of joining the reckless chaos around you.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

Imagine living your life one moment at a time with focus and presence, while giving your “Sacred Self” the care you need. What would your life look and feel like if you lived this way?

Times have changed and they are continually changing. The pace, topics, risks, and realities are ever-challenging and frightening. Even in that scenario, you are responsible for your life and your own well-being.

If you are a parent or caregiver, your responsibility extends to those in your care who are watching and listening to your example as a role model.

The attitude and paradigm by which you live your life on a consistent basis dictates your outcome. Past behavior typically predicts future behavior unless you work hard to eliminate or elevate your actions. If you feel like a victim, you will probably create more of the same and if you are large and in charge, you will continue on that path. Your overall well-being is your right.

Here are some useful tips to create well-being among chaos:

  1. Issue daily quiet time to reflect, go inward, and center your emotional self.
  2. Build confidence and self-worth by your consistent positive actions.
  3. Check your attitude at the door as soon as you notice self-sabotaging thoughts or behavioral patterns.
  4. Notice and if necessary correct where you place your needs in relation to circumstances or other people.
  5. Make your inner peace a high priority as part of your overall health and wellness.
  6. Find healthy outlets and supports for your challenges and emotional reactions, especially when stress feels unmanageable.
  7. Rationally assess what stressors are realistic or imminent to stay mindful of your thought patterns.
  8. Pay attention to the habits and patterns from your role models and question their veracity for you.
  9. If you are a parent, pay attention to your consistent example and modify whenever necessary.
  10. Seek out forms of relaxation and self-awareness, within and outside of your comfort zone.

Reach out to me for individual psychotherapy or life coaching. Contact me for Motivational Speaking and Workshop Facilitation. Get your copy of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life- Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child.” Deepak Chopra says, “If you are interested in conscious parenting, this book is an excellent guide.”

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New Interview in PCM! Parenting for Life- A Revolutionary New Paradigm for Families

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Nina Sidell’s ‘Parenting for Life’ – A Revolutionary New Paradigm for Families

(PCM) Many parenting books that are filled with advice for parents with children of all ages seem like a tug-of-war; but now there is a book with an honest, empowering, and extremely positive and helpful approach to parenting

Author Nina Sidell, M.A. has written “Parenting for Life,” an exciting new parenting book focused on strengthening your relationship with your child — starting from the baby and toddler stages, through the teen years, and continuing until they are mature adults. A true visionary, she has found a way for adults to look back to discover and heal the way they were parented.

“Parenting for Life,” received the internationally prestigious “Mom’s Choice Award,” which honors excellence in family-friendly media, products and services, and the cutting-edge and thought-provoking book has also been endorsed by Deepak Chopra, MD, who said: “If you are interested in conscious parenting, this book is an excellent guide.”

Sidell explains in her powerful 288-page book, that other typical parenting books most often explore what is wrong with a child, where the child gets stuck, or how to remedy behavior problems.

Although these books are well meaning, Sidell says that they leave out “the essential opportunities for mutual learning and growth present within the parent-child relationship, and what the parent brings to the table.”

Many parenting books are filled with advice for parents with children of all ages yet miss the importance of the parent-child relationship across a lifetime. Now there is a book with a positive and revolutionary approach that holds parents accountable and propels healthy family relating; ideal for the times we are living in today.

There are many personalized aspects and developmental stages to deal with when raising and relating to children and young adults. “We now have a parenting manual that is designed to help parents, children, and families navigate their lifetime relationship better.”

“Parenting for Life,” Sidell explains, “Is a guide book for parents who are contemplating, expecting, raising, or relating to their children. The manual is designed to educate, encourage, and inspire individual and coupled parents.” Sidell’s award-winning new book, “Parenting for Life,” provides vital tools to help you connect with your growing and grown kids in new and powerful ways.

Sidell is a skilled, highly intuitive therapist in private practice. She has a B.A. in psychology, and her Master’s Degree in Expressive Arts Therapy. She works as a therapist and life coach with children, families, teens, women and couples; as well as writes, lectures and facilitates workshops on parenting, relationships and personal development. The mother of two sons, who resides in Suburban Philadelphia, has also written numerous articles for newspapers and magazines.

There are three sections in the book and her hands-on approach provides “homework assignments” at the end of each chapter for parents to follow.

One major piece of advice from Sidell is that “the best approach is to “view and enjoy our children for who they are from the get-go,” she explains in her book. “Our expectations are best managed when we look at ourselves, our histories, our attitudes, and our children as they are. It is most effective to be unconditionally loving, respectful, realistic, and supportive of your child in each moment.”

Sidell, who has worked as a therapist with children, couples and families for more than 25 years, goes to explain that “we must value children’s feelings, opinions, wishes, and limits as the lifetime relationship grows.”

Sidell said that families are no longer the picture of the popular ’50s TV show “Father Knows Best.” She explains while the meaning of family has remained relatively the same; the configuration and needs of today’s family has changed in modern times.

Her book on formulating successful lifetime parenting also encourages readers to create a Parenting Journal to work on each of the 20 homework assignments in the chapters of the book. “By applying the principles and practices of the book, you can personalize your own inspirational parenting journey.”

mca_book_coverHere is a close-up look at Nina Sidell’s vital lessons from “Parenting for Life.”

Q: Please tell me about your book.

NINA SIDELL: “Parenting for Life,” Creates a new niche’ and paradigm in parenting. The sub-title for Parenting for Life is “Consciously Creating Your Lifetime Relationship with Your Child.” This book helps readers connect with their children at all stages in their lifetime relationship. It holds parents accountable, discusses the importance of mutual love, respect, and empathy as well as healthy roles and limits. There is homework at the end of each chapter to support the parent on their journey. Practical and powerful, “Parenting for Life,” offers parents of all ages tools to strengthen and heal relationships with their children.

Q: Overall, how do you see your book, “Parenting for Life?”

NS: I feel that my book is a socially relevant and revolutionary guidebook for individuals and couples, both before and after they become parents. This new approach heals lives. It can also help heal adult children who need to better understand and forgive their parents.

Q: What is important to understand about your approach to parenting?

NS: We must tune into where our expectations as parents come from. With this orientation, we can better accept and allow for our children’s individual process. Development cannot be rushed; nor can individuality. Your responsibility is to try to understand what your child is both saying and showing to you, all the days of your lives.

Q: How important is being a role model for our children?

NS: Being the best role model possible is always the goal, since children follow their parent’s lead. I advise parents with children of all ages that the consistent messages they send and model to their children will take hold in some way. A parent models strength and vulnerability as the family leader and how to navigate their inner and outer worlds.

Q: What do you feel is a good path for a healthy parent-child relationship?

NS: It is helpful when a parent identifies their parental feelings and goals around being a parent and welcomes the development of this lifetime relationship. See and love your children as individuals with unique gifts and needs to be valued, cherished, and encouraged. Keep your child safe and grow alongside him or her as you both evolve. Beyond trying to be a friend to your child, a parent’s job is to be the team leader, primarily to be a protector, guide, safe role model, and consistently loving and responsive caregiver to your child. The process of learning and relating lasts a lifetime between parent and child. The relationship starts from the beginning of your time together until the end of your time together. Keep your mind and heart open every step of the way as you both learn and grow.

Q: Why did you write your book?

NS: After a near-death experience I realized that I wanted to expand my work as a practicing psychotherapist to reach more people. I found that the practices and tools that were effective for me as a mother and clinician working with families, couples, and children provided a powerful and practical set of tools — valuable information to share with the world. “Parenting for Life” creates a new parenting paradigm that heals lives.

Q: Please tell me more.

NS: Well, as parents we often learn while in the throes of the parenting experience. We hope to do the best for our children, with the love, skills and knowledge we have at the time. Sometimes parents behave as their parents did, which may or may not have worked then or be effective now. Children need the best start in life that they can have while parents need to take responsibility for their parenting style, history, and role in co-creating this unique lifetime relationship.

Q: Do you have advice for parents just starting out?

NS: I feel that the best approach is to view and enjoy your children for who they are from the get-go. Your feelings and expectations are best managed when you look at yourself and your attitudes about your children. Managing your time and self-care are very important to fortify your energy as life with a child unfolds. Educate yourself and seek support when need be as you learn about your child and how to best parent them.

Q: What does ‘effective conscious parenting’ mean?

NS: Effective conscious parenting is described when a parent is self-aware of their intentions, feelings, attitudes, words and actions toward their child, applying this awareness for the benefit of the child and the relationship. It is utilizing tools and practices that offer growth-focused parenting.

Q: What are some primary roles of an effective parent?

NS: An effective parent’s job is to provide the physical, emotional, intellectual, social, and spiritual anchor that stabilizes your child’s sense of safety and security, and the wings that give him or her freedom to explore the environment and his or her identity. Another key, aside from keeping children feeling loved and safe, is supporting individuality. This includes accepting and supporting a child’s individual personality, gifts, self-expression, and needs.

Q: What else would you like to say about this?

NS: No two children are alike and each one must be treated as uniquely special. For every family there is typically some dysfunction and up’s and down’s. A parent who can be heart-centered ensures the importance of unconditional love and respect. Inviting appropriate, open dialogue, creating healthy routines and boundaries, and learning experiences are key. An open learning environment, such as welcoming “insight moments” and “lifetime insights” are practices that help the family focus on growth as opposed to challenges- which builds life skills for all.

Q: What is another key to keep in mind?

NS: A home that is filled with love fills up the giver and the receiver… one major key to successful parenting is that love and respect go together, and that they are valued as mutual practices between parent and child. Knowing home is a safe harbor provides shelter from the storms of life, reassuring your child that he or she is not alone. Living in a home that is treated like a sacred place is the best way to start the day and the most reassuring way to end the night.

For further information about Author, Speaker, Life Coach and Therapist Nina Sidell, M.A. and “Parenting for Life,” please go to: www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com. The book is available from Amazon, Create Space, Kindle, and Barnes & Noble.

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