When you were a child did one or both of your parents say to you, “Be a good girl” or “Be a good boy” in a consistent and authoritative manner? Was the answer to every problem or the basis for every solution for you to be compliant, quiet, without thoughts or opinions, without needs, or downright silent? (more…)
There is no excuse for not taking care of yourself. For you to be your best self, you need to meet your own needs. This is your life and along with all others, your life matters. ” A Fool is one so foolish as to take care of everyone and everything else, and to forget about taking care of themselves.” For all of you ladies out there! Remember that you deserve your essential self-care and you are strong and are not weak. Because you give to others, including your children, partners, families, and work lives- you must replenish yourself. When confronting challenging situations, remember that if you fall, you can lift yourself up. If you get lost or falter, you can start again or ask for help. You are strong enough to rescue yourself if you fall either literally or figuratively. (more…)
When I was a little girl of seven, I wanted to be a mommy. I knew that someday when the time was right, my dream would come true. I was a student, daughter, sister, granddaughter, cousin, friend and girlfriend up until the time I got married. I worked many jobs and became a psychotherapist in private practice. When the time came, I became the proud mother of two incredible and lovable children. My path shifted as…
Tips for Self-Care, and what it takes to make Mom happy
Becoming a parent summons you to take on a variety of roles and responsibilities outside of life as you know it- including your existing obligations. Delving into new unchartered territory comes with the job description- and continues throughout time, when you are a mother. From the beginning of your time together, until the end of your time together, as a parent you are stretched beyond singular, self-focused responsibilities, attend to the variety of needs of your child, and everyone else in your world. You become an adept juggler when you are a mother managing your world. So, when the “balancing act” of juggling stops, who takes care of you?
Being a parent is the biggest job you will ever have. As a mom, (more…)
What teachings did your parents offer you in your childhood and teen years? Be mindful as you answer that question of the spoken and unspoken teachings and messages that were given to you and what you received.
Let us first consider the spoken teachings from your parents or primary caregivers. The elements necessary to parent a child well are multi-faceted and require consistent love and effort on the parents’ part. The parents’ attitude and energy level also must be considered. The parents’ history and background are factors in how well or effectively they teach by word and example. (more…)
A place for moms looking to create meaningful and purposeful lives for themselves and their children. A Mother’s Evolution Nina Sidell, M.A. For as long as I can remember, specifically since the age of seven, I wanted to become a mommy. I felt love for my future unborn children and was excited to know and love them. I recall telling my parents that this was my dream, along with being a teacher, helper (I did not…