Author LiveInspiredwithNina

Author LiveInspiredwithNina

Families, and the Welfare and Protection of Children

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“Our society does not focus on families and family wellness, or on the welfare and protection of children.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

It is  my belief and observation that among all of the rapid societal changes we are experiencing, we are losing ground on certain matters of heartfelt importance. Evidence all-around illustrates the absence and minimizing effects of the importance of family life as well as the welfare and protection of children. For generations, family values and goals were spoken of and marketed to in all walks of life. Recent years the family is deteriorating, with the increased divorce rate and focus on a modern-day, “survival of the fittest”. We are coping with more stress than ever before in a multitude of ways.

With all of our social changes, the breakdown of the family coupled with the neglect of our children is on an upswing. We must keep our children safe in every possible way.

While the welfare and protection of children has not always been historically stellar, it has existed at our social core. What I can tell is that we are “adultifying” our children and their world, blatantly forgetting and neglecting to protect our children’s developmental needs and processes. This shows up in our media, social and interpersonal connections. It is as if children have joined the ranks of all else who are in the race to hurry up or survive. Conversations omit the importance of protecting our children’s collective innocence, as appearances of adult language, themes, permissive parenting, and increased violence toward and between our youth appear all too frequently.

There is too much to deal with today; without the awareness and skills to effectively cope with or improve challenging situations, we revert to “business as usual”.

Do all that you can to increase your gratitude for your family, past and present. Take care to parent with consciousness, whether your children are little or grown. Take a stand and be a voice of light in the darkness in a world on overwhelm. Reign back into the wisdom of your heart and the people who matter most. If everyone does this, our world can begin to heal with love and peace.

“Be receptive to lifelong learning, no matter what you think you already know. There is an endless supply of teachable moments for you and your child on your shared life’s journey.”

Nina Sidell, M.A. “Parenting for Life”. For your copy: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589

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Parenting Toolbox Tips

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“What do you remember as a child? What do you want your child to remember? Nina Sidell, M.A.”Parenting for Life”

When you are in the throes of parenting, the dynamic feels immediate, momentary, and specific to the interaction or developmental stage. What we often need to be reminded of as parents is that every interaction builds your lifetime relationship. Every interaction offers a deepening of love and respect, trust and safety between parent and child. Every interaction has the potential to create a memory, whether positive or negative, and offers life lessons that reach far beyond the moments you both experience, especially for the child.

To parent well over time you must be aware of consistent practices to support your strongest lifetime relationship.

Here Are Some Tips to Add to Your Parenting Toolbox:

  • Be aware of your own feelings and attitudes as you react or respond to your child.
  • Notice your triggers from current or past unresolved issues to help you be a mindful parent in the present.
  • Take care of your unmet inner childhood needs as you build empathy and sensitivity skills as a parent.
  • Welcome life lessons, “insight moments”, and “lifetime insights” while teaching this openness to your child.
  • Be sure to model healthy boundaries and accountability around your words and actions.
  • Get support if you need to gain healing, strengthen your boundaries, or personal accountability.
  • Learn about your parenting style and parenting goals, building tools that reflect both.
  • Notice the many positive interactions and behaviors that support your child and your relationship.
  • Create a home that feels like a safe place, a sanctuary for all.
  • Remember that everyone’s needs matter in a family.

Reach out to me for a free phone consultation if you need individual, couples, co-parenting, family or child therapy and support. I also work with parents and families during and post-divorce.

Call: 215-628-0282 or Email: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com

For your copies of my Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life” click here: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589 

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The Value of Mothering

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” Be willing to be your own internalized mother or father, capable of the specific nurturing you still need. Be an attentive parent to your inner child.” Nina Sidell, M.A.

As a child, we are given the caregivers that we inherit. The variation of mothers, fathers, grandparents, foster and adoptive parents raising children spans the globe. In honor of Mother’s Day, in specific, this blog article is written. Mothers worldwide deserve our place in the conversation.

As children experience childhood, they need a safe and consistent nurturing figure with whom they feel loved, protected, respected, and well-modeled. Often a mother fits this description. In today’s world, we have so many configurations of parenthood adding to the primary mother, that is a modern reality.

If you want to increase your appreciation for your mother and pass that on think about these ideas:

  • Mom’s learn how to mother from their mothers.
  • A Mother is the first woman and teacher in their child’s life.
  • All Mother’s do the best they can with the skills and awareness they have at the time.
  • Mother’s teach about safety, security, and the freedom to explore.
  • A Mother is a child’s first love object and attachment figure.
  • A Mother is a child’s first playground.
  • Mother’s love, accept,and see their child’s brilliance and uniqueness.
  • Mother’s cherish their babies, even when they are all grown up.
  • Mother’s are invested in their children’s happiness and well-being for a lifetime.
  • Mother’s give of themselves without being asked or thanked, just for the desire to give to their child.
  • All Mother’s are the most powerful role model for their daughters.
  • All Mother’s are the most significant female role models for their sons.
  • With unconditional love and respect, a Mom and her child can continue to evolve.
  • The relationship between a Mother and her child lasts for a Lifetime; there’s endless love and growth potential.
  • You can be an inner parent to your inner child, seeking healing if you need to resolve trauma, conflict, or childhood wounds.
  • The gift of good Mothering effects children’s entire lives.
  • Mothering is at the heart of our society, if we would acknowledge and cherish it, instilling individual, family and social growth.

Happy, Healthy Mother’s Day to all Mom’s! Thank you for helping to create happy children, families, and conscious parenting practices that help build a happy and healthy society.

To learn more, get your copy of my Mom’s Choice Award-Winning book, “Parenting for Life”. Dr. Deepak Chopra says, “If you are interested in conscious parenting, this book is an excellent guide.” https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Life-Nina-Sidell-M-A/dp/1506175589

Live Inspired! ®

Nina~ www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com

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The Gift of Good Co-Parenting

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” Being willing to consciously parent is an essential skill. Being willing to co-parent well is a gift.” Nina K. Sidell, M.A.

“Free yourself from antiquated ways, ineffective parenting styles and strategies or knee-jerk reactions by committing to parent with awareness. By making a conscious commitment to living with an open mind and heart, you free yourself from old habitual patterns, belief systems, and unconscious, inappropriate, or defensive responses. Try an expanded view and version of the old or ineffective style and strategies. Learn to do what works and release what does not. With awareness, you build acceptance and strength to deal with your child and his (or her) needs, both for now and for the future. Sometimes, that is much easier said than done. Let illusions of reality- outmoded ways of thinking, responding, and living that do not support your or your family go.” Parenting for Life, Nina K. Sidell, 2015.

When you marry or cohabitate and then bring a child into the world, the future success of your initial relationship is unknown to you. Hopefully, the relationship is sustained over time and the experience of being together with children grows in every way. Couples connect based on feelings of love, need, attraction, shared values or goals, and romantic commitments.

Whether you remain an in-tact unit or become single parents, you are responsible to keep the welfare of your children top of mind and heart at every turn.

As you help your children cope through the difficulty and pain, and as you all begin to heal, so will your co-parenting. The gift of growth and healing is present for the taking.

Here Are Some Tips to Consciously Co-Parent Well:

  • Whether you are coupled/married or divorced, remember that the goal is to provide consistent love, safety, protection, guidance, and support for your children.
  • Maintain healthy boundaries by keeping adult issues and conflicts away from your children. Your children get only one childhood and it’s significant for their lifetime.
  • Take ownership if you over-share adult issues and conflicts in front of your children. Apologize and self-correct so to not repeat the behavior.
  • Be responsible for how you deal with your co-parent, especially in front of your children so that you model self-control and respectful behavior.
  • Work on resolving your individual and marital issues with a trusted therapist and/or parenting coach. Find a safe place to “dump”, be heard, and strategize.
  • Work with a therapist and/or parenting coach to create a workable Parenting Plan- that covers the basics and specifics of childcare for your family.
  • Agree to communicate with your ex in an agreed upon manner (privately) about children’s needs, schedules, changes as helpers in co-raising your children.
  • Determine who is responsible for what as the parental responsibilities and goals are determined for the best interest of your children.
  • Build-in flexibility and good problem-solving skills when unexpected scheduling, interpersonal issues, and emergencies arise.
  • Encourage that your children have a positive relationship with the other parent.
  • Have your children “catch you” saying positive things about themselves and the other parent.
  • Healthy boundaries help you and your ex move on in your own personal/dating lives.
  • Create clear boundaries around who are the safe caregivers for your children and who are not.
  • Be sure to discuss safe adults with your children. Encourage and invite open communication about their needs, wishes, and feelings with active listening.
  • Schedule time for fun. Reinforce the importance of fun bonding time with your children and both parents.
  • Take good care of yourself. When you feel good, you are a better parent and co-parent.

Feel free to reach out for a Free Phone Consultation. Call: 215-628-0282 or Email: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com I am here to help.

Inspiring Insights for Well-Being.

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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How Therapy Helps

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“Good psychotherapy keeps clients safe, feeling free to be themselves while risking: expanding awareness and healing that is carried forward”. Nina K. Sidell, M.A.

When you take the step to consult with a psychotherapist, there are many things for you to consider. If you are doing this for yourself, your relationship, your family, or the courts you will gain the most going into it with some important knowledge. In my private practice experience spanning over thirty years, I have taught my clients to empower themselves when selecting me in a consultation phone call or someone else to work with. Psychotherapy can help you to understand and resolve acute or chronic issues and patterns as time unfolds.

Here is what to look for:

  1. Interview therapists who specialize in what you need help with. You can also seek general professional support and explore areas together.
  2. The initial consultation or meeting establishes if there is a safety and comfortable connection and the sense that the clinician can skillfully help you.
  3. Choose a clinician who welcomes questions, self-expression, and feedback so that you are actively part of the therapeutic process.
  4. Trust your intuition and feelings when choosing a private practice or psychotherapist. You will know who you feel most comfortable to work with.
  5. Take into consideration therapists who have been recommended by former clients, other therapists, credentialed sites like Psychology Today, family law attorneys and the courts.

Here is how therapy helps when done well:

  1. You are more self-aware, feel emotionally better, and think more clearly about your issues, your part in the problem and healing process/ solution.
  2. You have an improved mental attitude and emotional lightness once healing unfolds.
  3. Growth is second nature to you as learning, growing and healing become a part of your life’s story.
  4. You develop your self-honesty, resilience, and authenticity by courageously looking at yourself and your pain.
  5. Your relationships deepen or fall away, helping you continue to grow.
  6. You find love and empathy for your younger or current self and for those you love.
  7. Your inner strength and confidence, improved attitudes and behaviors improve.
  8. You have the experience of “doing your work”.
  9. Your old defense mechanisms and coping mechanisms evolve to better fit your life now.
  10. You integrate new ideas about yourself, your relationships, and the world into your view.

Reach out if you are looking for individual, couples or family therapy. I am here to help using Talk Therapy, Expressive Arts Therapies, CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy), Bioenergetics, Meditation, and Mindfulness. I am an insightful, experienced, empathetic, strength-based therapist who is, “gently confrontational” in my clinical approach. Email me at: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.comor call me at: 215-628-0282 to schedule your Free Phone Consultation.

Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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