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A Mother’s Love

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In this day and age of Coronavirus, we are fraught with uncertainties and fears that crop up daily, even momentarily. We are inundated with a lack of work, financial security, and an uncertain future. Many families and friends are separated due to a lack of safety, and isolation exists- and it’s hard to relate to. With Mother’s Day tomorrow, I have some suggestions that will warm your heart and lift your spirits.

When you think of stress, what comes to mind? Where do you usually feel stress in your body? Your answers may change, especially in recent times if you are stressed and in need of human connection. What thoughts give you peace and comfort, especially when thinking of your mother (or mother-figure)?

I work with individuals, couples, and families who deal with family trauma or the outcome of living with unhealthy patterns. In Psychotherapy, we discover ways couples and families can best relate and heal what ails them. This includes statements of each individual’s truth, and developing better listening and creative problem-solving skills working through the issues.

Here’s Some Possible Thank You’s for Your Mom (or Your Surrogate):

Thank you, Mom, for all these and many more gifts…

  1. For wanting me and giving me life.
  2. For taking care of me when I was young and in need of you.
  3. For giving me the best in you when you could.
  4. Be teaching me by example and with instruction, both silly and important things.
  5. Giving me some tools to move on, get ahead, learn a life lesson, or enjoy what was right in front of me.
  6. Ways you taught me by example; reminding me to be the best parts of myself.
  7. For growing and teaching me that there is always room for wisdom and growth.
  8. For being there for me, when I really needed it, and still need mothering.
  9. Thank you for teaching me to drink in the beauty of nature and its exquisite process of growth and rebirth.
  10. And for showing me all of yourself and your beauty, even the parts still growing.
  11. For letting me learn and grow my way, knowing that I can continue to learn, too.
  12. For loving me, as I have loved you, throughout it all.

Happy, Healthy Mother’s Day to My Mom and to All of the Mom’s Out There (past, present, and future)~ Reach out to me if you need a Therapist to talk with or process your feelings. Most insurances will reimburse you for sessions with me. Scroll to the contact Form and Reach Out. www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com

Keep Calm and Mother On!

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When I was a little girl of seven, I wanted to be a mommy. I knew that someday when the time was right, my dream would come true. I was a student, daughter, sister, granddaughter, cousin, friend and girlfriend up until the time I got married. I worked many jobs and became a psychotherapist in private practice. When the time came, I became the proud mother of two incredible and lovable children. My path shifted as I morphed into a single mom to my beloved babes, forging ahead with all of the love and guts I could muster. Day after day and year after year I let my heart and common sense lead me. I learned to honor and enjoy my children as the distinctly unique people that they are. I guided, protected, and gave them all that I could as I included myself in the mix, realizing that all of our needs matter. I have beamed with pride since I carried and delivered my wonderful sons into this world and I am still beaming.

I am now the parent of two young adult children who I endlessly adore and my quest remains: to love and honor them as they walk their own paths. I have not been the mother of adult children before and I remain a willing student as I take their lead and learn how to navigate this new role. With an open heart and mind, I thank my sons for allowing me to love them in the best ways I knew how and for always teaching me about who they are and what they need.

I now teach other parents how to best care for their children of all ages. I also support parents to care for themselves since after all, parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever love. With a great big open heart, I remain calm and ‘Mother On’ as each new chapter appears. Today and every day, I gratefully acknowledge the gift of being a devoted mom who grows with her children. Unwrapping this lifetime gift is the best Mother’s Day present I could ever receive and I thank my children always with love, humility, gratitude, and courage. #parenting #consciousparenting  #ParentingforLife #DeepakChopra #MCA #MothersDay2017 #love yourself #love your children #LiveInspired!®

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Who Takes Care of Mommy?

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Tips for Self-Care, and what it takes to make Mom happy

By Nina Sidell

Becoming a parent summons you to take on a variety of roles and responsibilities outside of life as you know it- including your existing obligations. Delving into new unchartered territory comes with the job description- and continues throughout time, when you are a mother.  From the beginning of your time together, until the end of your time together, as a parent you are stretched beyond singular, self-focused responsibilities, attend to the variety of needs of your child, and everyone else in your world. You become an adept juggler when you are a mother managing your world. So, when the “balancing act” of juggling stops, who takes care of you?

Being a parent is the biggest job you will ever have. As a mom, Continue Reading…

A Mother’s Evolution

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For as long as I can remember, specifically since the age of seven, I wanted to become a mommy. I felt love for my future unborn children and was excited to know and love them. I recall telling my parents that this was my dream, along with being a teacher, helper (I did not know the word therapist or life coach then), singer, dancer, writer, drummer, detective, and race car driver. I knew that I had big dreams and that I somehow wanted to help the world and grow rich and famous doing so.  So far, I have succeeded in accomplishing all but a few. I don’t drum professionally, although I have enjoyed African dance classes with drummers inspiring our moves, and I have treasured creative, musical family times and spiritual drum circles. I am not a race car driver, yet I drive with confident enthusiasm (sometimes with a tad too much vigor). But throughout it all, I have relished being my children’s mother. It is a job that I honor and loved when they were little and still love now. It is a privilege to give life, then nurture those lives, and watch developmental and personal miracles happen as new paths continuously appear in their lives. I am proud and honored and my heart remains full with love for my dear sons.

 

As a therapist and life coach, I work with people from all walks of life and with different perspectives and issues. Being the facilitator for other people’s psychological, emotional, behavioral, and spiritual growth and process; I also facilitate my own growth. Being my children’s mother is another important way that I continue to learn and grow with my evolving kids. The learning experience, focus on mutual love and growth, and the “felt sense” to own in everyday life, as described by Dr. Eugene Gendlin, is perpetually rewarding. The “felt sense” (Gendlin, Focusing, 1982) is the focus of adding to traditional emotional and environmental cues by focusing on a slight bodily quality that can be physically felt from a deeper, more emotional place- a global sense underneath that can deepen cognitive detail not otherwise accessible to the person.  This technique works well with my clients, in addition to using it myself. Being a parent for me is deeply heart profound and soul rewarding.

Being a parent keeps me honest, open, and forever evolving. My practice of parenting helps my writing and work helping others. My philosophy is, “Healthy communication involves an ongoing willingness to learn and relearn, an awakening of new ways to absorb and express information, for yourself and the ones you love.” Parenting for Life, Nina Sidell, 2015. Being the devoted mom of two older children, I have been there and done that. Much of my experience as a mother has been done solo, as a single parent. It has been the journey of a lifetime, offering my open-hearted wisdom and care to the two human beings that are a part of me, the ones I undeniably love and adore- forever and always and no matter what. Our journey has been one of co-habitating and co-learning.  That is the way it has been and the learning continues as our lives become more separate; more individuated. Time forces us to morph into our separate selves, as we all find both old and new ways of being and relating as adults with one another, and as we three continue to grow.

I can remember countless moments when raising my children, that we used our self-appointed family slogan, “Harmony Three” enjoying fun family time together. We made up a family song based on a movie moment favorite. We often enjoyed meals together, family projects, hiked in nearby woods, played sports, invented games and special family rituals, camped out in the backyard, enjoyed picnics in lush meadows and on our family room floor, and created art, music, dance, plays, puppet shows, and writing projects in an open learning environment. Life without the illusion of perfection was loving, close-knit, and an adventure in its own perfect way. Rather than freezing time, I have cherished every single second of it: the joys, challenges, struggles, triumphs, and spiritual process between us and for each of us, my two children and I. I have tried to capture each moment in- the- moment and cement as many as I can to remember as a memory later. My heart leads the way as we continue our lives journeys.

With one child out of the house, living on his own post-college I have had to let go. My next child is perched to fly the coop and about to attend his college years. The letting go place in me slowly re-opens, (initially kicking and screaming), now welcomes in a new time and new era. My children are growing into more of who they are and are destined to become. The same is true for our relationship, as we relate on different levels while still maintaining our roles. I watch proudly and protectively as I let go and yet still hold on. Like a proud mama eagle, I proudly sit and watch my children’s wings spread and fly taking them to where they may go next. I become the woman in the “empty nest” welcoming my children back home again as my wings too shall fly.

When you have children, whether you always wanted to become a mother or not- you are connected to them for life. The awareness that your lifetime relationship is an ongoing evolution as you and your child (or children) evolve makes it all the more worthwhile.

 

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