“Invite your whole heart into your relationships. Love heals lives beyond measure.” Nina Sidell, M.A.
There are many different kinds of relationships; some last a season, others seemingly momentary, and other relationships last a lifetime. When you are in love, feel deep love for your child, and love your family and friends- each experiential feeling differs. They differ because each relationship comes with it distinct and unique purposes, boundaries, and roles. In another real sense, the experience of loving, accepting, forgiving and lovingly connecting with another person- also allowing them to love you is a kind of “shared magic”.
In my private practice, I see a variety of clients and speak to large groups about conscious parenting, personal empowerment and mindfulness. One of the common denominators in my work is to educate, encourage, and inspire the very best in everyone I come in contact with. In my personal life, I also practice what I teach as I strengthen my practice of: Mindfulness, Self-Compassion, and Resilience.
I recommend that you can improve your life one moment-at-a-time (without judgment or resistance) by becoming a witness to love in your life. Always be sure to learn to love yourself and do it well. Your relationship with yourself and your self-worth stays with you over your lifetime and is worth nurturing.
Look for the moments you experience love and welcome a loving attitude or exchange and when you are unloving or resistant. Look for the love or lack of love you give to yourself. Realize that all healthy forms of love improve your relationships, even if it means a healthy ending.
Tips to Grow the Healing Power of Love in Your Life:
In your daily life, learn and practice: Mindfulness, Self-Compassion, and Resilience.
Tune into your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Notice where love exists and where love needs to be developed.
Observe your words and actions to see when you are reflecting loving thoughts and attitudes and when you are not.
Be open to learning how to increase love in your life, for yourself and your relationships.
Appreciate all forms of human interaction with curiosity and insight, attentive to lifetime learning opportunities.
Forgive others for not meeting your needs or expectations and give yourself what you need.
Practice Gratitude on a daily, regular basis to keep the vibration of ease, joy, and abundance alive.
Set clear limits, and if need be, release unloving thoughts, practices, and unloving relationships as a form of Self-Care.
Ask for what you need to feel loved in your close relationships.
Love yourself like you would a dear friend.
Reach out to me if you, your family, organization, or conference need my support. I am here to help. Live Inspired! ® Nina~
“The practice of mindfulness coupled with self-compassion builds your resilience. You overcome stress and are more empowered.” Nina Sidell
Mindfulness is at the heart of effective coping and strategizing at home and at work. By increasing awareness and discovering neutrality, you develop greater self-compassion and resilience. I will be speaking at the Texas Librarians Association Fall Conference discussing this phenomenal and effective practice.
Awareness of Momentary Focus- “I am aware…”
Handle Feelings with Self-Compassion- “The only way out is through.”
5- Minute Breathwork Builds Resiliency- “My breath keeps me calm.”
Some Types of Mindfulness:
Conscious, Intentional Thinking
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Body Scan and Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Health Benefits of Mindfulness: Practicing Mindfulness if Good for Your Health!
Self-Regulation (thoughts, emotions, actions) (respond vs. react)
Reduce Anxiety and Depression
Improve Heart Rate and Blood Pressure
Better Eating Habits
You are Mindful when you are present in the moment, open to information and insight.
You are Self-Compassionate when you are kind and loving toward yourself no matter what.
You are Resilientwhen you thrive beyond difficulties or challenges, and learn to rise above.
Reach out to me if I can be of support to you, your family, company or organization. I am here to help~
Live Inspired! ® Nina~ www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com
I want to first acknowledge and congratulate you on surviving the close of summer, and hope you accumulated enough relaxation and perspective to carry you through for a while. Now, as a parent you must deal with the onset of the fall chaos and the process of beginning anew with a brand-new school year ahead. This transition process is part of the cyclical nature of life’s many seasons as you and your child continue to progress. You must constantly adjust to changes as a parent, and now is no different. When getting your kids ready to go back to school or leave home for college, (no matter what grade) you as the parent and all family members feel the adjustment and are affected. With new and sometimes conflicting schedules and responsibilities, the mood of a home shifts.
Similar to what public relations professionals call an “advertising blitz”, parents and their children face a concentrated “multi-task” blitz in the fall. The go, go, go pace is real and the shift is felt as the mellowness of summer fades away and new pervading obligations take its place. The pace of life quickens as your responsibilities, energy output and stress levels may magnify, too. All that is required of you and individual family needs may create conflict or anxiety, so you need to be prepared as leader of the pack.
SOME SPECIFIC STRESS SURVIVAL SKILLS:
Remember what it was like for you beginning or returning to school and how you feel as the school year begins.
Be empathetic with your child. Even if you do not understand their stress, be sensitive to their perceptions.
Prioritize your responsibilities and goals, creating a general “to do” list to work from.
Clear out your living and working spaces. Do it in short bursts or all at once. Just do it.
Factor in time to enjoy physical exercise, stretching or relaxed breathing every day.
Eliminate needless errands, phone calls, busywork and time wasters.
Learn to delegate reasonable chores and responsibilities to family members.
Plan ahead, call ahead, get directions, make arrangements and organize ahead of time (whenever humanly possible). Be flexible and spontaneous the rest of the time.
Prepare meals in advance, use the freezer, and cook in the morning or the day before.
Be sure to stay emotionally connected to your child, partner, friends, and yourself. Share dialogue, smiles and hugs, even at crunch times.
Set limits on over-scheduling. Create space for “down time”, “alone time”, and “family time.”
Balance back to school stress with lightness and a sense of humor. Keep your perspective as you model that to your child.
Listen twice as much as you talk to invite your child’s thoughts, worries, and ongoing feelings.
Brainstorm ways to create positive and realistic expectations, based on personal strengths and an optimistic, calming attitude.
Pay attention to your attitudes and feelings and be an emotionally available sounding board as a conscious parent. You and your student feel the shift in energy and deserve to honor what that brings up for both of you.
Stress can be a two-headed animal. Stressors can cause anxiety or fear as well it can promote positive action. You learn how to tame or escape it as you see it coming. On one hand, stress can motivate, energize and create a sense of urgency, causing a shift of mental and physical gears in one’s life. The immediate shift of focus and urgency can help you to create workable strategies to improve or deal with goals and issues that are in front of you. Productivity is imminent, despite uncomfortable feelings. So, in that sense, it can be positive to have multiple obligations with external deadlines designed to focus on getting the tasks done. You create a system, even if it is a haphazard one, to accomplish what you must do. Stress, on the other hand can also be overwhelming, frightening, exhausting and debilitating to one’s health and relationships, if not managed properly. During this time of the year, it is a good idea to plan things out well, pace yourself and be clear about your intentions before you leap onto the “multi-task rollercoaster” of this transitional big push time. Plan out your goals and priorities, manage your relationships with love and put your stress management strategies at the top of your list!
You somehow get many of the details attended to, seemingly in one long burst. The degree of doing and going, usually without stopping to take a breath, relax and recharge is quite commonplace, especially for parents. There are deadlines, clothing, books and supplies to buy, school forms to fill out, doctor’s appointments, new friends and clothing to sort through. The adjustments to new and busier schedules, more obligatory driving, less sleep or relaxation and a stricter routine are all issues that arise. When you forget to stop, take a breath or take good care of yourself and your loved ones, the process becomes even more taxing. It will take its toll on you eventually, if you aren’t mindful of how to organize it all.
It’s how you manage your schedules, your responsibilities and the care for yourself and your family that matters most. You will probably get everything done; at least accomplish the priorities, at least some of the time. It will benefit you to improve your skills around time, stress and clutter management. Work on good planning, compromise, effective interpersonal communication skills, and how to delegate fairly and creatively in order to improve the whole process for all of you. You will (all) feel better, as a result!
Essentially, we are talking about coping skills; building in more effective and more personally empowering skills to deal with life. Add in the rushed pace of our society and the rapid increase of life’s pressures, personal responsibilities and you have more to cope with. You have both the challenge and the opportunity to drown or excel in your response to stress. You have to consciously choose to take the steps toward a path of time and self-management principles and routines to make this shift possible. Just like any venture, remember to take it one step at a time and do your best. You will make it work for you!
Remember too, that although summer is officially over and you are now in the throes of a fast-paced fall, you have some control over how it goes. You at least, have control over being accountable for how you handle the whirlwind. Your attitude and your focus can help you stay centered. Like Dorothy said,” Everything I always needed was right in my own back yard!” Use your strengths to help guide your path both at home and as you model for your child how to handle the world. Take charge, be alert, work on organizing your life and your time. Take good care of you, your child and your mental health. With the right mix of love, understanding, and tools that work- you will definitely survive…the key is doing it with consciousness.
Contact me for therapy, co-parenting (Inc. post-divorce), speaking, life coaching, “Parenting for Life!” group coaching, and Live Inspired! The Program for Women group @: www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com. Look for my book, “Parenting for Life!” Live Inspired!® Nina~ Like me on Facebook @: Nina Sidell, Inspiring Lives. #parenting #consciousparenting #coparenting #schoolstress #depression #anxiety #copingwithstress
Join Nina Sidell, M.A. for this 3-hour workshop to help you identify the difficult people in your life and explore ways to support your spiritual growth, despite of or because of those relationships. There will be a lecture, a creative visualization process, writing exercises, partner exercises, and large group sharing for those who want to share. This will be a transformative event.
For those of you who have experienced Nina’s skills and talents, get ready for this spiritually relevant learning workshop. This is the place to be if you have any difficult people in your life. Nina teaches and inspires with skill and care to help you work through difficult relationship patterns using life coaching, psychology, spirituality, and creativity. Learn new tools and skills to explore in the group and practice with homework. You will discover and be supported to be your best self as you deal with difficult relationships and thrive.
Deal with Difficult People in a Spiritual Way is designed to support you to:
•Grow from your relationships and life lessons and allow yourself to evolve.
•Be introspective and self-aware in the midst of challenges.
•Learn to set strong boundaries with difficult people.
•Make conscious choices in your relationships and reactions/responses.
•Practice adequate self-care so that you feel centered, strong, calm, and balanced.
•Detach with Love and empower yourself to effectively diffuse difficult moments.
•Be empathetic with everyone, including the difficult person, and with yourself.
•Accept that with growth comes changes, endings, and new beginnings.
•Set a good example and live your truth.
“Good psychotherapy keeps clients safe, feeling free to be themselves while risking: expanding awareness and healing that is carried forward”. Nina K. Sidell, M.A.
When you take the step to consult with a psychotherapist, there are many things for you to consider. If you are doing this for yourself, your relationship, your family, or the courts you will gain the most going into it with some important knowledge. In my private practice experience spanning over thirty years, I have taught my clients to empower themselves when selecting me in a consultation phone call or someone else to work with. Psychotherapy can help you to understand and resolve acute or chronic issues and patterns as time unfolds.
Here is what to look for:
Interview therapists who specialize in what you need help with. You can also seek general professional support and explore areas together.
The initial consultation or meeting establishes if there is a safety and comfortable connection and the sense that the clinician can skillfully help you.
Choose a clinician who welcomes questions, self-expression, and feedback so that you are actively part of the therapeutic process.
Trust your intuition and feelings when choosing a private practice or psychotherapist. You will know who you feel most comfortable to work with.
Take into consideration therapists who have been recommended by former clients, other therapists, credentialed sites like Psychology Today, family law attorneys and the courts.
Here is how therapy helps when done well:
You are more self-aware, feel emotionally better, and think more clearly about your issues, your part in the problem and healing process/ solution.
You have an improved mental attitude and emotional lightness once healing unfolds.
Growth is second nature to you as learning, growing and healing become a part of your life’s story.
You develop your self-honesty, resilience, and authenticity by courageously looking at yourself and your pain.
Your relationships deepen or fall away, helping you continue to grow.
You find love and empathy for your younger or current self and for those you love.
Your inner strength and confidence, improved attitudes and behaviors improve.
You have the experience of “doing your work”.
Your old defense mechanisms and coping mechanisms evolve to better fit your life now.
You integrate new ideas about yourself, your relationships, and the world into your view.
Reach out if you are looking for individual, couples or family therapy. I am here to help using Talk Therapy, Expressive Arts Therapies, CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy), Bioenergetics, Meditation, and Mindfulness. I am an insightful, experienced, empathetic, strength-based therapist who is, “gently confrontational” in my clinical approach. Email me at: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.comor call me at: 215-628-0282 to schedule your Free Phone Consultation.