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Who’s Listening?

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” Feeling truly heard by another person is deeply satisfying, necessary, and sometimes feels like a treat more than a regular occurrence.” Nina K. Sidell, “Parenting for Life”

Do you feel heard when you talk and share with others? Are you a good listener? How often do you feel truly listened to with your friends, family and colleagues? What acknowledgements are demonstrated to you when you feel that you are being heard? After all, communication is designed for both people in a discourse to feel seen, heard, and understood as a basic psychological human need. When we forget that everyone has something to say, we are more present and truly hearing both sides. Listening well and feeling heard assist in resolving conflict and bring people together. Even if those ‘agree to disagree’, or have no consensus, there is always room for a healthy discussion.

Here are some Active Listening Tips to practice and ask of others:

The Listener:

  1. Relax enough to be available to hear someone else and respect their point of view.
  2. Be present when listening by putting own agenda and reactions aside.
  3. Take turns to confirm what was said.
  4. Ask if what you heard is what the speaker said (versus interpretation).
  5. The listener responds to what the speaker says instead of sharing, comparing, or reacting.
  6. The listener talks after the speaker does in a shared dialogue.
  7. Respond rather than react.
  8. Thank the speaker for sharing.

The Speaker:

  1.  Set aside a good time to talk for both parties where there are no distractions.
  2. Be clear and direct and stay on topic.
  3. Make “I” Statements when expressing feelings or opinions to make the sent message easier to digest.
  4. The purpose of sharing is for the speaker is to be heard clearly.
  5. Blame, shame, name-calling, yelling and insults are not permitted when sharing.
  6. Learn how to self-correct in the moment if need be.
  7. Know that the goal is to be heard and not necessarily to be agreed with.
  8. Thank the listener for listening.

It is never too late to communicate well and to improve your skills and relationships. If I can be of help, please reach out to me whether you are struggling with personal empowerment or relationship issues at home or at work. Email me at: Nina@LiveInspiredwithNina.com. I am here to help. Live Inspired! ® Nina~

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Worthy of Self-Love

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“What runs the engine of your life? Be sure to fuel life choices that value and honor you.” Nina  Sidell

How do you feel about yourself? Are you aware of the specialness about you and what you deserve?

No matter your lot in life, the situations, career positions, relationships, desires and ultimate happiness directly relate to your real, true, deep opinion of yourself. It is not your fault if circumstances have challenged or failed you. It is the way in which you handle and respond to all circumstances that defines you. In many ways, your outer life reflects your inner life. It is a tall order to reflect so self-honestly, yet reflection while being truthful and open to new learning is always a useful and meaningful practice.

You must be courageous to be self-aware. Learning to improve your self-worth and act in self-loving ways is possible at any age.

When you truly love and honor yourself you know it. When you don’t, you know that too.

Here are some guidelines for ways to improve your self-worth today:

  • Having high self-regard and treating yourself in loving ways in all you do is not bragging or being arrogant.
  • It is not selfish to take care of yourself and know that you deserve care. That is called, “Healthy Selfishness”.
  • Notice your “Self-talk” or “Internal Dialogue”.
  • Keep track of the negative and positive thoughts and messages that run through your brain daily.
  • Create a plan to substitute your negative “Self-Talk” with positive “Self-Talk”.
  • Reinforce yourself with healthy acknowledgements as you grow your Self-Praise to Self-Criticism Ratio.
  • Learn how to be self-compassionate when life feels challenging, difficult, or overwhelming.
  • Write a personal affirmation using your name, in present time, with ideal practices and feelings that nurtures and empowers you.
  • Be sure that your affirmation is reasonable and believable and use only positive words and phrases.
  • Read your affirmation at least twice a day out loud and preferably while looking into a mirror.
  • Choose to be around people who support you with whom you feel “comfortable, safe, and at home”.
  • When communicating your wants and needs with others, do so with confidence and clarity.
  • Treat others with the same love and respect as you treat yourself and want to be treated.
  • Begin to notice how your life improves when you consciously and consistently treat yourself with the love you deserve.

Choose to elevate your understanding of who you are and what you deserve in life. You always have the opportunity to look inside and shine brightly!

Reach out to me for Psychotherapy, Life Coaching and Motivational Speaking at: http://www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com Live Inspired! ® Nina

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