The day’s murky grey color and softened quasi-rainy dampness makes me think of how you can see and work with dreary relationships and still find a place of comfort and peace. Depending on your point of view you can learn to manage a difficult relative, boss, co-worker, ex and other difficult people in your life and still enjoy the day! It really depends upon your point of view. Essentially it comes down to what you focus on, what you resonate with and what direction you choose to go.
You go through the reality of the day and what appears before you, it may feel dark and chilly at first. You then realize that you still need to get on with things. You choose to make it happy and productive or not, and get to choose what you do next. You find the hidden treasure there to warm you within the cold. You learn to train your mind in the present, capture the reality of what is, make the best of it, learn because or in spite of it and go about your day. You are an active participant in how you create a good, productive, positive, livable outcome for what can be. You do so as best as you can, are responsible for your part; learn what works best and what does not.
You train your brain in habitual ways, know what you know, what you knew from recent events or from way back when. You respond to your environment, timing, feelings churned up, wishes and expectations of what you believe the outcome to be. The way your moments unfold are more up to you, what you believe and what you tell yourself, than you might think. You may feel powerless over the misty, cold, sunless day.
It’s true you can’t control the weather. You also can’t control other people. What you can do is choose to enthusiastically deal with what is, period, plain and simple. You deal with people like you do weather conditions, accept and embrace the chill of reality, enjoy the soothing warmth of new clarity. You find the best in your day, the best in other people. You see the lessons there for you and eagerly learn new ways of being peaceful.
A day like today is like the universe giving you the chance to deal with a harsher reality, leave the joy of sunshine and warmth to celebrate that reality for another day. Both kinds of days are gifts. Same is true for your relationships, how and what you make of them. You choose to learn from everything. If you notice momentary life lessons, signs, coincidences, feedback that repeat themselves in your life, you’ll understand this. The way you deal with life is the way life will deal with you. What you expect, you often receive. Like the principles of Karma and The Law of Attraction: as long as you continue to do something repeatedly and not learn from it, it’ll continue to re-appear for you. Once you learn the lesson, you experience a new reality, born of new perceptions, better choices, better outcomes… until new lessons appear.
Sometimes it is easier said than done to adopt new thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and actions into your way of being and living. Best way to push through that natural resistance is to focus on your ideal outcome. Focus on who you are and the kind of person you can be(come) proud of. Take a step back and see the whole picture, all its sides before you react, or do what you’ve always done. Hold a light to the darkened places that keep you entrenched in habit patterns of thinking, reacting and doing that may no longer serve you now. Everyone slips, sometimes falls. It’s okay as long as you get back up, look at yourself and learn from it. Know when to protect yourself so that you are safe. Once you feel secure expose yourself to new ways of processing your world. You are better prepared to deal with your rainy, cold, murky places, relationships that trigger and challenge you to rise above. You put on your symbolic rain gear, walk confidently, wade through the trenches and seek light. Live Inspired!® Nina~ www.LiveInspiredwithNina.com